Congrats on coming out! Just for some perspective- I came out 8 months ago- I was 51. Having been married for the last 25 years, remaining...
My regrets are many and I've realized over the years that I have a choice- I can use them against myself and enter a never ending spiral of...
Hi David - Reading your post stirred up some heavy emotions for me. I am 52 now- I joined here after I turned 50. I went from 'I'll never come...
I admitted to myself that I was gay when my children were ages 4 and 5. They are 20 and 21 now and I came out about 7 months ago. One of the...
On not rushing it... It's a very good point. I had a therapist that helped me by forcing me to consider all the consequences of my coming out. Not...
For me the answer to this question was; A lot. I was so consumed with thoughts, anxiety, depression, etc. I slowly isolated myself from long...
I don't think I'm allowed to name anything specific. I have an iPhone, I looked at all the Gay dating apps and their rankings, and picked a few...
I followed this path for about 15 years... The "what can we do to make this right" speech occurred MANY times. Trust me, it just gets worse. The...
Agreed! I have been there. As a middle aged guy just coming out I put myself out there preparing for the worst. After a while I stopped being...
I so get your anxiety. I was there. And now I am here: http://emptyclosets.com/forum/lgbt-later-life/220960-never-say-never.html Keep talking...
Speaking as an expert in the "self-shaming" business ;-) ... I've gone/am going through these feelings as a husband and father who is dating...
I thought my 25+ years with the same employer, the reputation I had built/crafted, as well as my family ties and church kept me 100% closeted......
I didn't accept this personally until I was about 35. I can't say "I wish I had done something then..." because I was resolute that I didn't want...
Hello EC! I found this site over a year and a half ago out of absolute desperation. I had just turned 50, kids heading off to college, and...
Blighted... Really inappropriate, immature, and offensive comment by you. Hope you calm down and reconsider the hyperbole. I may not have...
Ok that gave me the chills. Congratulations! Your bravery and honesty feels a little infectious right now... Thanks.
As several have basically said; Don't worry about it my friend! You are YOUNG. I had the same view a year ago when I started looking into...
One amazing wife for 24 years and 2 kids now in college .... I started therapy 1 year ago with the intention of learning how to cope with being...
Congrats! I know how huge these little victories are. I've driven past a local gay bar several times... So I get it.
Be the "bad guy". Take that burden off of her shoulders. Easy advice to give, really difficult to do I know... I wish I had done this at your age....