So basically the only thing stopping me now from coming out is fear. I don't know exactly why, but I've ended up bumping again into this excellent post by Musicteach, which is very useful at this moment: Deep inside, I know that this is silly, that there's nothing to be afraid of and that I'm not doing myself a favour by letting fear paralyse me. These past few days/weeks, I've been trying to defeat fear through a logical process, as Chip explains in this pertinent post that I've just discovered: The same way my “Shred” thread was the nail in the coffin of my absurd attempts to deny that I'm gay, let's try to go through what I'm afraid of... There are essentially four things: 1. That I'm not gay and just confused. Objectively, I know this isn't true, but sometimes this comes to my mind. But let's be clear: even if I didn't use the perfect wording for 1, 2 or 3 of the items on the first post of the “Shred” thread (which is probably not the case), it's extremely unlikely that I have generated such a big misrepresentation of the whole picture. So I'm sorry, but all the “Maybe they misunderstood you because you didn't express yourself well enough” are bullsh*t. Plus, it's myself whom I had to convince, and deep inside I know the truth. I know it every time that I'm attracted to nice men or that I'm not attracted to nice women. 2. That people are going to laugh at me for having taken so long to come out, given that I live in an extremely LGBT-friendly country. Okay, it might come as a surprise to some of my acquaintances, but anyone that doesn't respect me and my process doesn't understand at all LGBT causes. So such a person wouldn't have been good support even if I had come out years ago. 3. That I'm not going to find understanding, like in “Oh, come on, being gay here is a non-issue. Why are you struggling?” This is basically the same as #2. Plus, the only reason for supporting me a real friend should need is seeing me suffer, no matter what they think about the causes of my unhappiness. 4. That maybe I misunderstood my parents repeatedly and also the gayish things on Edward's social media, and that he's straight, making the fact that I come out to Aunt Emily come across as extremely weird. But seriously... What are the chances? My parents have repeatedly said that he's gay, that his mother says so, that his grandpa knows that “he'll never marry [a woman]”... And all the pictures that Edward has ever posted are with women or gay men, including one in which he's wearing a hat with a rainbow flag. All in all, I believe there's nothing to be afraid of. As a result, waiting to take my first steps is unnecessary and counter-productive. If I don't change my mind once more, my short-term plan consists in: Eventually texting Aunt Emily this Tuesday. Coming out to Oona on Wednesday in our rescheduled call. As a last remark, I think it was Ian McKellen who said he'd never met one person that regretted having come out (with the likely exception of those who put their lives in danger). So I think it's unlikely that, if I've got this far, that I'll regret having come out as gay or having done so “too soon,”isn't it?