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I've got it sooooo bad! Make it stop!

Discussion in 'LGBT Later in Life' started by RJay, Jun 18, 2017.

  1. Soundofmusic

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    Be real, V could send you any pic and you'd be all for it.

    IDK if Id necessarily consider that flirting but I do commend you because your responses are continuously obvious so yes, there's definitely no reason why she should act surprised (though I'm always skeptical because that's exactly what happened to me w/ my very own version of V. But I was never EVER as forward as you are. Go Girl!).
     
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    I love how this thread goes offtopic in a heartbeat. :slight_smile:
     
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    Absolutely, just hanging by the water cooler again, shooting the breeze. :slight_smile:
     
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    So send her a picture of your foot back and see we're that gets you! Lol
     
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    HAHA!!! I'm definitely the "guy" here. I wear men's shoes and straight cut jeans that cover the ankle. Sexy photos will definitely be her job. :slight_smile:
     
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    How do you know what she thinks is sexy?
     
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    Well, I don't, but I'm pretty sure my Doc Martens aren't it! :grin:
     
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    I'm happy that you're happy :slight_smile:
     
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    Well maybe, maybe not but who knows. I wouldn't have thought in a million years my girlfriend would go out with me but she is still here.
     
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    Hmmm...now I'm all of topic in my head wondering what the new shoes look like! Black high heels open toe or otherwise are my go-to footwear; I want to make sure I'm not missing a great sale or anything! :grinning:

    But back on topic--100% agree with you RJay, I would hope that when you 'make the play' that she doesn't act shocked or surprised! I was the one initially who was like, 'no, maybe she doesn't know ', but I switched to 'she's GOT TO know' a while ago. I think there's been too much going on for her not to know. Seems to me that anyone would be able to review the evidence of all the signals you've thrown out and deduce 'I think she's into me!'
     
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    Right. And one could only assume that if she knows and is doing stuff like this, then she likes it.

    In fact I'm starting to think wouldn't it be hilarious (and make a better movie plot) if she's been into me this whole time? And after all of my worry and concern about making her uncomfortable or burdening her with my affection, she's actually been luring me in and orchestrating my demise all along? After all, she is the more experienced one, and I don't know for a fact that she's never been with a woman. All I know is that she's had a lot of casual drunken sex. Hmm. Could be an amazing plot twist!
     
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    The zones of your brain that deal with sensory input from your feet are right next to the ones for your genitals. (See "sensory homunculus".) I have always suspected this is why they are so often thought of as erogenous. Now I'm not saying that V is a physiologist, but I concur with the opinion that foot pix are flirt pix. (Pardon my mansplaining in a lesbian thread. But hey, I'm bi.)
     
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    LOL! I pardon you, especially because you agree with me. :slight_smile:
     
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    YES! This would thicken the plot in the movie version! I've taken to watching lesbian movies on Netflix (most low budget/predictable or just plain bad!) But THIS movie would interest me, it could be told in alternating viewpoints, yours and hers. Maybe you can hire me to write it, I'll need an editor CLEARLY so it's not 17 hours long...LOL.! OMG, I'm getting way ahead of things here...

    Ok, back down to earth. Assuming she knows, you're right, it would stand to reason that since she doesn't dissuade you, and sends out sexy shoe photos that she likes it. The only other possibility I can think of would be that she just likes the attention, or enjoys flirting, knows she is doing it but rationalizes that the other person (you) 'isn't thinking anything of it.' Which is why there may be a chance she might try to plead innocent here as far as her role (if it comes to that, hopefully all will just go well and we can just proceed with the happily ever after movie!) :slight_smile:
     
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    Haha, I've been watching all those movies too. My favorite is the Swedish movie "Kiss Me". And there's this newish one, "Below Her Mouth" which is basically soft porn. The dialogue is atrocious, but the sex scenes, OMG.

    Yes, I do realize she just might be a natural flirt, can't help it, and somehow has missed that I'm a total and complete mess over her so thinks it's doing no harm. Totally possible. I'd be disappointed if she was that self-absorbed, though.
     
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    Hahaha! I watched 'Below Her Mouth' too--well, watched part of it...and the sex scenes...good stuff! But I did have to bail out of it because the dialogue was just soooo uninspired and BLAH. And I have pretty low standards too, I mean I'll stick to an episode of that ridiculous/horrific '90 Day Fiance' if it's on!!!:rolling_eyes:
     
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    RJay,
    I have to say I agree with you. If I wanted to show my new shoes, I'd hold them up & take a photo.

    To me, taking a photo "modeling" sexy heels in manicured feet is indeed a flirty photo. No doubt about that in my mind (I thought it was a flirt the second I read your post).

    What does this mean? If V is straight, she could be enjoying the attention from a lesbian woman who has showed her she's attracted to her (ie. the hugs, playing with her hair, etc.).
    Even if she doesn't want to be romantically involved, the attention feels good (like when girls get mad if a guy doesn't like them or ignores them even if they're not really interested in dating that guy...yeah, it's a real thing that happens).

    In fact, this interest and ego boost from attention she's getting from you might answer the question I had about her when I thought, "how could she not be aware of the signals she gets from RJay?" Maybe she needs the attention to rebuild her self-esteem after the divorce. Who knows. I'm just thinking out loud here, but I agree with you...the foot photo is indeed flirty (I can verify that with my many straight girlfriends)!
     
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    That's what I worry about. Because that's legit what happened to me. She had to have known how I felt. There was no doubt about it. We even kissed. And she later said she was straight and if she had known how I felt, she'd have never led me on. Looking back, I think she loved the attention I was giving her since she was in a long distance relationship and the guy barely paid her attention. I was her emotional partner for ~6 months and it probably felt amazing for her to have someone be at her every whim (and boy was I). But when it got down to it, she was like "you totally misinterpreted this whole thing".

    Just sharing this because again, I don't want you to be surprised either if things don't got he way you want them to. But like I also said before, this experience, no matter how it ends, will teach you much about your capacity to love a woman and that's so valuable.
     
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    I appreciate the reality check! Can I ask, what were your ages when this happened?
     
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    27 & 29

    I don't mean to be a Debbie downer, by the way. Just giving some perspective.