How to talk to this person you're attracted to.

Well maybe you just have to find a whole heap of stuff you need help with hahaha. Sounds like a good day.

 

No worries. I think it probably was easier because you felt like you had a reason to start the conversation and because of that you were more relaxed and then she relaxed because of it and the whole thing flowed easier. Maybe you can thank her for her help today.

 

What about just asking about what she has been up to etc. If she has a boyfriend, girlfriend, husband, wife, significant other its most likely she will mention them at some point.

 

Let me know how it goes.

 

Well I think the last bit is true for sure. What signs made you think she was straight?

 

Well nails can be a sign but they can always not be a sign. 2 kids is a sign she has been with at least one man but if you read the posts in the later in life section you will see that having kids is not proof she isn't gay not that I'm trying to get your hopes up because it is always more likely someone isstraight over gay. I don't think you should go after her, I just think you should get to know her and try and make a friend and worry about anything else later.

 

The way I see it is if she likes girls and it's mean to be then by being friends it will probably happen naturally and if she isn't into girls then you gain a friend.

 

Hey. Sorry for the very late reply. I asked him to grab some snacks with me after work and he said no cos his shoes got wet and he wanted to go straight home to change. I told him some other time then, and he said yes.

I finally got the chance to bring him to a cafe though for some snacks. We attended a workshop that lasted the whole day and I asked him if he wanted to have dinner with me. He said no again cos he wants to have dinner with his brother. I didn't let him slip through my fingers though and told him that I'd treat him to some snacks instead. After a few no's, he finally gave in. You might say I kinda forced him to say yes, but while we were eating, he seemed interested while I was talking and when it was finally his turn to talk, he shared most of his previous work in another company. We talked for an hour more or less before he said he needed to go to meet up with some friends. (I felt quite disappointed that he lied to me about him eating dinner with his brother, whatever.)

The next day, I sent him a text thanking him for eating with me and sort of apologized for dragging him with me and he said it was no problem and thanked me for the treat. I told him that I'd bring him somewhere again and he didn't reply back. Then earlier this morning, I sent him a morning greeting and again, he didn't respond.

So now, I don't know if the "date" went well or not at all, if he's interested or not, if I should ask him out again or just draw the line and treat him as friends.

Sorry for the long post. And I hope you don't mind me sharing all this.

 

Hey I think that he probably isn't interested in being more than friends but well done for trying. It's all good experience for when you do find someone who is interested.

 

You really think so?

I'll try asking him out again and I'd definitely tell him how I feel about him just to get rid of the "what-ifs" in my head. If he rejects me, then it's no problem for me to back off, I'd be happy to. But if he doesn't, fireworks!

 

Yes perhaps asking more directly would be a good idea. I mean I could be wrong, I just didn't see any points in what you wrote that made me think he was interested in more than friendship.

 

That's ok rant away. It's difficult, I guess you have to decide how much you want to try and be friends with her and how much effort you are willing to put in. It's difficult to know whether she doesn't initiate conversations because she is too shy or just because she isn't bothered.