How to talk to this person you're attracted to.

Sorry venting again . Honestly feeling awkward again about everything. We haven't talked much lately and now it's just like bothering me for some reason. Like I thought about initiating a conversation again but then I feel like I'm pestering and losing confidence again.

 

No she didn't... it's like the gut thing I was telling you. My gut says go talk to her, she's nice. But my mind is saying don't and like I think she doesn't want to talk but I can see her look like she is waiting for me to say this time instead of her. She didn't give any reason and I catch her staring at me sometimes when we are standing close but I'm looking down so I'm coming off with a bad vibe when I don't want to. Like one time she was standing with her friends and then I turn and she moved all the way next to me for a meeting. Friendship I feel like I would be pestering her too. Like I am not even trying to flirt, just trying to get to know her.

 

Alright, I'll try and just ask how she's doing tomorrow or something. I feel so bad cause I don't want her to think I don't even like her as a friend. I would be happy with more but I would be just as happy as friends. I got that resting bitch face sometimes but I'm super friendly lol. I need to gain some confidence back for sure though.

 

I haven't had time to converse because work has been hectic. I am honestly just feeling like I shouldn't bother anymore cause it doesn't seem like it's going anywhere even as friends. I have like no confidence cause it just sucks not being able to interact. We walk past each other and don't say anything. I'll probably just try to just let it be and just stick to my work. It really sucks saying that but I don't know what to do.

 

Did he decline your lunch in general or he said maybe another time? It honestly is difficult and I just feel like it's just not meant to be anymore so I just work and talk to our mutual friends. For me, she's super friendly with everyone but I don't know things just feel like tense and different when we work together. I notice she talks more with others and she notices I talk more with others. The last time we talked was like 3 weeks ago and it kills me inside cause I do not have the confidence to say 'hi how's it going?' I feel like such a bother.

 

Yea I get what you mean. I am honestly not thinking of anything more than a friendship. I think it is clear that she is most likely straight. I don't think I can even ask her that stuff cause we don't even talk as friends like that. I need to build my confidence back but lately I've just feeling like whatever. Like I understand I can be missing out on a friendship but it's just I never had to try this hard to even make a friend. Thanks for listening by the way and replying.

 

Just at work I guess but I feel like it is all in my head. I am not sure... honestly was thinking just avoiding her would make me feel better and just focusing on work. Focusing on work keeps me occupied but not technically energetic and confident. Any tips on how to get confidence back?

 

That is a good point, I do feel way to focused on the situation. I'll just try to focus on work and treat her like anyone else. If something comes out of it then cool. If not I am still working and just working on myself. I'll try doing that tomorrow. Cause the last few days I've been trying to find a way to talk but now I'll just work and let things happen. Thank you that actually made me feel a bit better!

 

Haven’t found much time to talk to her lately still, but I have been feeling a lot better just working. I haven’t been thinking of forcing anything or working hard to make something happen, but I’ll let you know if anything comes out of it.

 

So we actually talked a lot more today and I just went up to her. I needed help on something and so I was like I’ll just ask her and she helped. I think after seeing that I approached her she relaxed a lot more and actually approached me again and we talked for a bit more. Hopefully now she notices my face is just serious but I enjoy talking to her.