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How to talk to this person you're attracted to.

Discussion in 'Family, Friends, and Relationships' started by Anon1201, Sep 23, 2017.

  1. Anon1201

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    So I was so nervous when we were working together lol. I was like she looks like she doesn’t want to be bothered but I was like hey how are you... she smiled and said she was doing good and we were talking for a bit. We ran into each other again and she talked first and then I ran out of things to say and my body language was giving off the wrong sign. Like I got nervous and I was backing up and she saw and I can see her kind of like frown and say have a good weekend. I was like you too and I felt bad cause she was trying hard to keep the conversation going but I really couldn’t think of what to ask because I was shocked she wanted to talk and I was nervous cause it was just us two lol.
     
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    I think it's all good progress though, maybe try and think of some things you can ask her when you are not in that stressful situation, like a prepared list and then hopefully when the opportunity arises you will be able to remember some.
     
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    Yea I’ll try that, it’s just like I get scared like some questions would be to invasive. Like I technically know some personal stuff about her but she chose to share that or I kind of worked my way around the question rather than asking it directly. I need to find some neutral questions to ask. But thanks for the pointers cause I feel like if it wasn’t for this forum I probably wouldn’t have approached her.
     
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    Well it's no problem.
     
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    I realized I never answered when you asked what I was doing this weekend. I had nothing planned, why do you ask? Haha
     
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    Haha no worries, no reason just because I'm nosey.
     
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    Haha I thought you were going to say ask her to hangout but I don’t think we are on that basis yet. I mean it depends on the person but I think it would be awkward asking her that. But didn’t have much planned. How is your weekend going?
     
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    Any update for you? It it is nice to know someone is in the same shoes I am in.
     
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    Haha no don't worry that wasn't my intention. My weekend is going well, they are just over too fast.
     
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    Did you do anything cool over the weekend?
     
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    My parents came down and we went to watch the end of a vintage car rally and then in the evening we watched fireworks on the beach so it was really nice.
     
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    That sounds like a really nice weekend! I haven’t been to the beach in a long time lol.
     
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    Well when you get. Yourself a girlfriend you can take her to the beach.
     
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    Yea that would be nice to just walk down by the water and talk. Hopefully can meet that special someone.
     
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    So like I didn’t give up on being friends with that chick I think is cute but I guess I’m not putting much effort anymore. Like I’m still attracted but I just don’t want this to be a one sided friendship so at work I just do my own thing lol. It sucks but I think it’s for the best.
     
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    Yeah well she isn't the only girl in the world.
     
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    Lol yea she isn’t but I’m bi and never felt this attracted to a woman. Like I have only dated men in the past but like with her things seemed different. So I was like I think I’m into her. But yea she’s not the only woman in the world I’m sure I’ll meet other great women.
     
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    I'm not saying she isn't great but it depends how much effort you want to put in, I mean you could put in a lot of effort and then find she isn't into girls.
     
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    Yea I know. I am interested but not with this one sided effort as I mentioned. So I decided to just be friendly when we talk but nothing more. Plus I would rather not want to find out she’s not into women lol. So I’ll just be friends with her.