Emerging Gay

Between a guy and girl? Or anal vs vagina?

 

I mean just overall. The more I have slept with both sexes, the more similarities I have noticed rather than differences. Like at first glance, it is very different. But the more I have done it, the more I have got to realise it isn’t all that different.

 

Well I don’t really get aroused by women and looking back I kind of got grossed out,though I think women can look beautiful naked has always made me wince a little

 

For me I could only stay aroused if we did it doggie style. If I looked at her boobs or vagina I would lose my erection. Towards the end even doggie style didn’t work. I needed a real man. There is no comparison being vaginal sex and anal sex with a man. Hands down anal is more stimulating.

 

As you become more comfortable with your same sex attraction and it grows you will continue to struggle with arousal with a woman until it becomes physically and mentally impossible. In many ways it a blessed relief to finally be free of any vestiges of heterosexuality. You stop struggling against your true sexuality.

 

Because it is a chore for a gay man to have straight sexual

@CyberSteve88 again your path may be different but that’s what happened to me and there are dozens of other stories like that here. The struggle becomes exhausting and you eventually “surrender’ and a beautiful blissful feeling washes over you. You accept this is how you are and how you express intimacy and love.

going back to when I originally came here, I never ever thought I would like let alone accept that I was gay. If I can accept myself anyone can

 

Is it that much better for the top? I heard it was only extra tight at the entrance. But when I read things like this it makes me want to give it a try, especially if it'll feel really good for my boyfriend. But he is a fair size, he's 6' 1" or 6' 2" and definitely in proportion. I'm 5' 5" and small built, so even doing things the conventional way is something of a stretch - sorry if TMI

How deep can you safely go?

 

Sorry I know this thread isn't about hetero stuff but you guys are probably the best people to ask about this, none of my girlfriends that I'm open with about this sort of thing have any relevant experience....

 

The only advice I would give you are three items:
Make sure you communicate with your partner
Be patient, if it hurts stop
Use plenty of lube.
Anal with the right partner and in the right mood is an incredibly erotic and sensual experience of pleasure.
Enjoy yourself.

 

Haha, you've sold me. Spicing things up a little wouldn't be a bad thing, I can't say I'm disappointed with our sex life but straight sex does get a bit samey after a while.

 

how does it feel? Don’t worry if you slip back again, but more and more you’re becoming aware of the possibility of living authentically

It’s a little different for us also because we were having sex with the wrong partner. I usually bottom but I have topped and enjoyed it but I have no desire and probably wouldn’t like doing it with a woman. So there’s an extra erotic element when it’s two men, at least for gay guys

 

Pretty deep but often the turn on is the right spot. @Contented gave excellent advice.

 

It’s often a ‘roller coaster’ coming out and accepting yourself. Sometimes a step back, but once the genie is out o f the bottle … I have never seen anyone here go fully back into the closet though that has happened I am sure, but eventually it’s just became agonizing and painful to stay in the closet. You don’t have to come out to everyone or even anyone, but self acceptance is really important

It’s a little tight at first especially your first times but lube and foreplay help. Not to get to graphic, but I actually like that tight feeling when he first enters me.
Definitely not a “beginner’s “ position but “bottoming “ on top is super erotic and fun
But again this might be more enjoyable for gay guys because it’s also affirming our sexuality, especially if we have been repressed.

 

I believe this is a very accurate statement. Not only does anal provide incredible pleasure for a gay man it is also affirming our homosexuality. Anal is so identified with gay sexuality it becomes part of what and who we are. This is not to say that heterosexuals can’t enjoy anal because of course they can. However I believe the act is much more meaningful for a gay man.

 

Its all good fun. I have topped for other girls with a strapon. Which is OK - not exactly my cup of tea but I'm a giver and happy to give her what she needs. Mentally it is quite enjoyable I guess. I was always surprised just how much some girls were into it, personally I have never been all that impressed when on the receiving end, but then I think its because I am comparing it to an experienced man. I am sure I'm pretty bad at it.

Yeah I'd think being on top helps control angle & depth. I like being on top for that reason and its definitely the 'quickest' position. But there's something about being laid flat on my belly that just feels extra good, but its more reliant on the other person then. But done right it is my definite favourite. I guess that position probably works pretty well for two guys too.

 

Couldn’t agree with you more. I feel so wonderfully gay in that position which adds so much to my enjoyment of that intimate moment.

 

I think I know exactly what you mean.