Discussion in 'LGBT Later in Life' started by Dodds, Mar 2, 2018.
No i lack self confidence and self esteem I camt go it alone
Have you always lacked self confidence?
I've never really thst confident
Would you like to be more confident?
Yeah In a way . I do let people take advantage of me others hsve said it. I allways used to over compensate my lack of confidence by acting silly in my group of friends just to make sure they liked me . During my 18 to 20s I was allways the 1 getting drunk dancing on tables and getting my boobs out as it made people laugh
Hi Dodds. I understand you feeling not strong enough, I do. I don't think my mother EVER felt "strong" enough, but waited until one kid graduated college, and the other was in high school. She did not do this consciously I don't believe, but I think it played a part sub-consciously.
It did not help my dad deal, by waiting. It did not help me or my brother deal, by waiting.
Not to mention, even if you came out, it doesn't mean you need to break up with your family. My mom lived with us for over a year before she moved out. Also, there are famillies on here that DO try and work things out, despite sexuality differences.
What is your greatest fear if you came out? I am genuinely curious, as I can't even define MY greatest fear, despite having a mother who is a lesbian and basically "broke the mold" for the family if I ever did.
Do you have any close friends?
I'm scared of rejection worry people will judge me and i will lose family and friends. I would like to think I had close friends but sumtimes i dont feel i have
Have you spoken to anyone in real life about how you are feeling?
Been lurking not knowing what to say. Just want to say that you are not alone in your struggle. This is very scary as the world you know will never be the same even with acceptance. I engaged in self destructive behaviors when I was struggling with my sexuality and trying to conform to social norm. I am out to my husband, some family and my closest friends. I get to be me now. I don’t know how your husband will react to finding this out. This something you would want to discuss with a therapist and get advice on how to approach it. Also knowing what community resources are available and your legal rights is important.
Well done you it must be good to able to be you and live how u want to