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Discussion in 'LGBT Later in Life' started by Dodds, Mar 2, 2018.

  1. CuriousG74

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    So that indicates you're not happy, you need to to do something about it. Speak to Relate for advice, can't be stuck in a marriage just for the sake of the kids, they will pick up on there's something wrong. You say he's been acting different, do you think he may suspect ? Do you mention this other lady a lot around him.
     
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    Hi Dodds, are you still there ? How you keeping ?
     
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    Yeah still here im ok .still wit my husband. He found a message i had sent sun1 saying i had feelings for a lady he didn't take it well. I just said feelings as friends and sum1 i look up to . We don't talk bout it any more
     
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    oh not good, do you only look up to that person as a friend or something else ? Does he feel threatened do you think ?
     
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    I have feelings more then friendship for her i don't know what he feels just know he was really angry
     
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    Have you considered any more about the future and how you would like it to look?
     
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    There is no pressure to do anything your are not ready for. This is your journey and ultimately you need to do what is best for you and your happiness. I am also married ... with him for 13 years and have children. It has reawakened with these feelings over a year ago and I am just now getting to a place where I want to tell him because the inner struggle is too much... I haven’t yet but I am in a place of progress compared to where I was a year ago... some move slow and some move fast... I only suggest that you work on yourself with self care and being here can be helpful in figuring out what to do next. I agree with getting a therapist... talking about these things to another can be very helpful. Good luck.
     
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    How are you doing ? long time no hear...
     
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    Just checking in, how's things going now ?