What you are feeling is I think very common when LGBT people 'come out' after they are physically/actually adolescent. We experience for the...
I'm a bit of a pedant, I submit. But I still have no idea what you all are talking about. OK. Could someone give me an example when they...
Thanks Chip and OTH, But here is where I have a problem: "Vulnerability is standing naked on stage and hoping for applause and not laughter."...
I have read on many, many posts about vulnerability. Clearly it resonates with many EC folk. Many refer to Brene Brown's TED talks which I have...
The normal, natural response to shame is to hide because shame is a dreadfully painful emotion. Anyone who is honest about feeling shame will...
Dear OnTheHighWay, I feel compelled to thank you for your deeply felt response. And I agree. You have completed what I have written and much...
This is rather long and rather personal and not particularly jolly. But like many other posters I’ve been thinking and reading a lot about shame....
All that has been said above, plus: it has led me to value and celebrate what is different, diverse and colourful above what is conforming,...
Hi brainwashed... you comment about the waring tribes is taken with fun. The rise of populism isn't exactly absent in the US right now, I hasten...
What has happened - the UK voting, albeit by a very small majority, to leave the EU - has come as a huge blow to me. But the voting patterns have...
I didn’t know I was gay until I fell hopelessly in love with a boy when I was twelve. It was a relief partly because I realised I’d always been...
My experience is exactly like YuriCore's. I had never experienced homophobia before I knew I liked boys. In my case this is a long time ago. I...
My first crush was a celebrity crush. It was 1977, I was ten, and he was David Soul!!!!
I KNOW, PRAY TELL (NOT PREY) I’m sure some younger EC members venture to this “later” forum. I wondered about your thoughts and reflections on...
When I started a thread earlier this week I said: “Shame is hideous. And I knew it from when I was very young. I felt shamed as a young boy...
May be I'm getting too pedantic here. But I've always been a pedant. Here I go again. Chip says: The definition of shame used by those who...
Hi BaristaJedi, yet another post that I can relate to in many, many ways. One of the things about my past that has puzzled me is the ups and...
Dear OnTheHighway, I thank you for your deeply felt response to my post. I cannot tell you how wonderful it feels to be sharing with others...
It may help to focus on the one emotion that is completely positive: JOY. Ask yourself: who could bring me joy? That person - female or male,...
SiennaFire, You use the present tense... "A lot hinges on to what extent you internalize the message that you are crap". Perhaps I should be...
