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Why I love being gay/queer

Discussion in 'LGBT Later in Life' started by baristajedi, Jun 28, 2016.

  1. baristajedi

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    I love being gay (or queer? Still in that in-between label space)....

    Because it's who I am. I love being me, finally, after a long hard battle fighting myself.

    Because it's led me to a loving community, where I feel accepted and loved.

    Because it makes me look outside of what's expected and accepted in society.

    Because it's taken me on a difficult, rewarding journey.

    Because in accepting who I am I can desire, feel affection for, express my interest in and maybe one day love whomever I truly feel all of these things for.

    Because it's made me look deep into myself and question who I am, and thereby learn many things about the core of me.

    Because being gay is one part of the wide range of beautiful and joyful experiences in love, sexuality, desire.

    Because I have had to fight for my truth, and in doing so value it deeply.

    Because the LGBT community, my community, is made up of incredibly diverse, strong, loving and accepting people.

    Because, well like I said before, because it's who I am.


    What do you love about being LGBT?
     
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    Glad to read that, sister! (*hug*)

    I love being LGBTQ because it is liberating to feel free to love whoever I want, when I see straight people freaking out over feeling attracted by same-sex person, or by other people feeling like it. Get a grip, love is love! :rolle:
     
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    I am just gay because I like rainbow stuff and snarky t-shirts...

    Seriously though, all the same things you mentioned above. I find that a lot of the gender and sexual minorities I have met are very authentic people, probably because they are already seen as outcasts and have learned to not care so much what others think of them. So I especially love the people and the community. :slight_smile:
     
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    Liberating is such a spot-on word. Love is love :stuck_out_tongue_closed_eyes:ride:

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    Well we are fabulously colourful :newcolor:

    I agree about authenticity. There's nothing so refreshing as finding others who are just simply themselves, and it's so rewarding to simply be yourself as well.
     
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    I very much agree, I love LGBT because I can truly be myself and be accepted for it.
     
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    All that has been said above, plus: it has led me to value and celebrate what is different, diverse and colourful above what is conforming, restricting and drab.
     
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    I like being gay because I break every stereotype, most people don't believe me when I tell them I'm gay.
     
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    It's freeing, isn't it? Just being you.

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    So true. And conforming is boring.

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    It's all about being you. being true to you is so important.
     
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    ... because I realize that it's who I am, and when I forget about being queer/bi (hide in the closet or ignore my actual thoughts/feelings), I'm not being myself... and I'm a damn good person!
     
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    OMG thanks so much for posting this tonight!... or maybe I just read it tonight....because I am a little giddy ... I ran away from this board a few weeks ago and I am still scared to come back, I realize I am scared of my own freedom. I know I have along way to go. first time i came here I thought it would be a easy pleasure, turn on gay switch, have fun. then i realized reality. then i realized, I thought this was about 'fun' but it's about finally being who you are and being free.

    Tomorrow I might feel scared as hell as regret these words, but I will read them and know they are true, and know I have taken another step I can't take back.

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    I have been scared of this but right now I so want to get there.....the damn is bursting again....
     
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    I love being gay/queer because now I know what real romantic feelings are like and I won't settle for any less.

    i also love being gay/queer because it means that, even if only by a grain of sand on a beach, theres still a slight possibility that I could be with Ruby Rose. :slight_smile: :wink:
     
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    I love being bi simply because it's just who I am. YAY PRIDE
     
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    This thread is bringing me life tonight, Barista J. Being bi is beautiful. I'm feeling that so strongly! :slight_smile:
     
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    I love being a giant queer, because I can have being queer is awesome. Plus there's an ever so slight chance I might one day get to date Colton Haynes.... :grin:
     
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    I love this!

    Every time I read this thread, it's like I realize something I have been hiding from myself!
     
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    I love being pansexual because if I am attracted to someone, there's no shame in it at all. I love expressing all of me, male, female and in between. I can feel manly or feminine without hating myself.
     
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    Ehh. I just like being bi because I get a slightly larger dating pool. I don't really have anything sentimental to add.
     
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    I love all of this LGBT love and pride in this thread!

    :stuck_out_tongue_closed_eyes:ride::stuck_out_tongue_closed_eyes:ride::stuck_out_tongue_closed_eyes:ride::thewave::stuck_out_tongue_closed_eyes:ride::stuck_out_tongue_closed_eyes:ride: :stuck_out_tongue_closed_eyes:ride:

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    Findingjoy, I'm glad this thread is helping you see things you want for yourself. (*hug*)

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    Yeahpidk and Clustergazelle :wink: yes!! We're all just six degrees away, right?

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    Solid snake - fair enough!! Nothing wrong with a bigger dating pool. :slight_smile:
     
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    What a great thread. :slight_smile:

    I like having a better understanding of myself too. I'm also feeling a bit more positive about the future.

    findingjoy, I've often felt like this when posting on EC; thinking I'll be feeling completely the opposite way by tomorrow.
     
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    One day at a time!