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Do people suspect you're LGBT?

Discussion in 'Chit Chat' started by CandyKing, Dec 21, 2014.

  1. emmyee

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    Some people do. They know, at the very least, that I'm pretty vocal about my opinion on LGBT issues.
     
  2. essie

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    Nope. On Friday I've even been asked what my ideal man would look like.
     
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    Fuck being asked that. I don't know how to respond to so many things people ask and this is one.
     
  4. dreamcatcher

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    People are always surprised when I tell them. They have to take a minute to process what I say because they're often so shocked. I have no idea why but that's the way it is haha
     
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    It's funny, some people seem to assume it automatically, but all my friends were SO shocked when I came out. Even my gay friends were a little bit blindsided.
     
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    People just seem to think there is generally something wrong with me. Honestly I don't even know how to define my sexuality anymore, not that it needs defining.
     
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    No... I don't dress 'gay' enough according to some people... My accent and the way I talk throws people off as well.
     
  8. AngelWings17

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    Mostly every one of my friends didn't see it coming when I came out, but there are a few who knew all along that I'm bi. I was a bit surprised when they said they knew.
     
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    I hate that one :/ I'm either wishy washy or be as vague as possible so it applies still :stuck_out_tongue_closed_eyes:
     
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    I always hope people do... but they dont :/ so that sucks.. I'm planning on getting a unicorn horn and fairy wings... I think that should do it :slight_smile:
     
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    Not really, no. Although they aren't too surprised when I tell them.
     
  12. TheStormInside

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    They used to when I was younger, before I even knew it myself :eusa_doh: . So far the people I've come out to have been pretty surprised, though, so I must have gotten pretty good at "playing straight" over the years.
     
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    Most people don't care. They think I'm too into schoolwork to get a boyfriend, and I'm perfectly fine letting them think that for the time being.
     
  14. waitwhat

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    Most of my friends on Facebook and the people that I graduated with assume that I am. That's mostly based on my posting habits, I post a lot of LGBT stuff, and a friend in high school would always say that I was a lesbian.
     
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    Quite the contrary. Some people think I'm joking, doing it for attention and faking it, or confused. Because I've never dated a girl. It is SO freaking frustrating to have your identity invalidated by people after you trust them enough to come out to them. Ughhhn
     
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    Throughout my life, people always questioned me why I enjoyed having long hair - so they may have assumed I was gay (stereotypical for that time) or trans for that reason. Through every school I went to, I always hung out with a lot of girls; students had assumed I was gay for that. :/

    In fact, I find it funny how people never usually guessed I was genderqueer and just went straight to thinking I was gay. Typical.

    Aside from that, I think the only way people could really tell is whenever I make lady-like gestures or when I raise the pitch in my voice (which I subconsciously do when talking to my girlfriend, it's when I feel most comfortable).

    My dad always enforced me to be manly and kept me in check whenever I strayed from that. That never stopped me from becoming who I am, inevitably.
     
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    nope..if it was that easy maybe another lesbian who was attracted to me could actually ask me out lol
     
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    They tend to assume that I am not straight. Usually they think I am a lesbian and look confused if I tell them I am with a man. Then they assume I am bi. If I say I am actually a guy their head explodes.

    It's weird how people often think that sexual orientation and gender expression are the same thing.
     
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    My mom did before I came out to her but that was only because I was never interested in boys but most people I meet now assume I'm straight (I'm always a little offended tbh)
     
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    Never, and it drives me crazy. I think I'm one of those people that if somebody saw me outside of work and was specifically looking for signs that I was a lesbian, they'd be able to tell (short fingernails, Subaru, leather jacket, combat boots, guy's wallet, no purse, only male friends, smoker and I love cats, video games, and gorey/action movies, etc. They may be stereotypes, but they're stereotypes for a reason)...but I'm also very curvy, have long, curly blonde hair and wear make-up.

    However, most days I'm wearing scrubs & sneakers with a little make-up and my hair in a ponytail, so people assume I'm straight. A lot of people are surprised when they find out, especially if they knew I'd dated guys in the past.