Just want to say that i have the exact same thing. A lot of times that i see a handsome guy i get completely nervous and have the anxiety attack, with a chest tight feeling. And tbh with you, you are not anxious because you are attracted to this guy, you are anxious bc you dont know if you are attracted to this guy. Dont know if it makes sense but you have the fear of being attracted to a handsome guy, and you think you are in denial, so thats why youre anxious, and the same thing happens to me, i have those same feelings, anxiety nervous, my heart beat increase, chest tight feeling, all of that, but the major thing that i cant recognize is attraction, for some reason i just feel im not attracted to this guy, i know that at the moment that it happens, you cant really rhink straight since you are anxious, but try to think about this after. I have a gay friend, and my obsession started bc of him, one day he tried to flirt with me only joking, and i joked too with him we were having fun, but after that i started this cycle that im into, this was 2 years ago. And im not going to lie to you, everyday it got worse, i thought i was attracted to him, bc i started to think about him like crazy, not in the good way, but i was so anxious, i couldnt listen to romantic songs or movies or animes, bc his face or name would just appear in my head, and i was like, i know this guy for 4 years, am i really attracted to him? Bc when i hang out with him, at the first moment i would see him, i would feel this, heart beat, nervous, anxiety, but after i spent some time with him, all of this disapeared and i looked to him and i thought, wow im not attracted to him, so why i have such anxious feelings. Tbh eith you until today i have problems with this friend that i dont see much more, sometimes i have intrusive thoughts about him or when we would play and my friends invited him i started to get anxious, im so sad bc of this bc it feels like i lost a friend, but its so traumatic that i cant even look him in the eyes bc of how afraid im of the possibility that doesnt exist there, i k ow its only anxiety, i tested myself with him a lot, and it never worked, and i dont find him pretty and all, hes nust my friend, but i cant look at him without getring a panic attack. What im trying to say is that yes is your ocd bc i cant feel im attracted to a guy, i feel only anxious. And i know that love and anxiety feelings are somewhat equal. So whenever i see a guy thats handsome i try not to panic but i feel the anxiety too even if its not so much anymore, i test my heart beat, all that, and cant say if i am really attracted to woman, but there are womans that i look and it feels so different, you know? I get aroused, i feel a good shiver over my body, get a little nervous, not anxious. So i do think that this is both anxiety actually, trully. You fear being attracted to him and this is why you feel so anxious. Not bc you are attracted to him, if you were, even if you had anxiety, you would feel good. You know that, i dont think that denial is a feeling, like anxiett, and i dont think that denial is intantly like anxiety is, and there are ppl that say that denial is unconscious, and it could be, but if is unconcious it wouldnt be such a pain in the ass i think, it wouldnt be anxiety. And i know you will say, but what if im saying those feelings are anxiety just to cover that im gay, im in denial then. Okay sure, but again i dont think denial would be like this tbh. Try this, everytime you see a handsome guy, just say hes handsome for you, yeah, theres a lot of hot guys around the world, look adam levine, my man is almost 50s and hes hot, hes handsome, but that doesnt mean im gay. Just try saying this to yourself, say that hes handsome, whats the matter with that, and try move on, let the anxiety be there. Thats how i try to deal with it.