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Would You Date A Trans Person?

Discussion in 'Chit Chat' started by iiimee, Jul 10, 2016.

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Would You Date A Trans Person?

  1. I'm cis. No, I would NOT date a trans person.

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    17.0%
  2. I'm trans. No, I would NOT date another trans person.

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    1.1%
  3. I'm cis. I would date certain trans people. (Please specify in comments)

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  4. I'm trans. I would date certain trans people. (Please specify in comments)

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  1. RainbowGreen

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    Of course I would.

    A trans person could understand me better, though I would not cross out cis people (they are 99% of people, so that'd be stupid).
     
  2. Glowing Eyes

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    I'd probably be more likely to date a trans woman than a cis woman 'cause I'd feel less dysphoric about myself in that relationship. I would also find my dating partner more relatable.
     
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    Sure. I'd date trans guys and possibly certain masculine non-binary people.

    However, I think I would be hesitant - though not entirely unwilling - to date a trans guy at this point in my life, because while I would be a boy's girlfriend, like I want, society would probably view us the other way around, which would be darn dysphoric... :/
     
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    Considering I am already dating a trans women, I think you can guess my answer.
     
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    I would date another trans guy if I liked him...personally I am not looking to date anyone until I have started my own transition...would probably prefer the other guy to be transitioning too.

    The only thing that bothers me about these conversations is when people assume all trans people are pre-op, or that all trans people want to use their original genitalia.


    I agree with this...some people act like it's transphobic to not want to date a trans person...I get that it sucks being trans and dating, but for some people genitalia is an important part of attraction, and you can't change that.
     
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    Yeah, of course I would. I'm into women: cis or trans.
     
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    If I like them.
     
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    If we click, then we click. I don't let someone's parts dictate how I feel about them.
     
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    I sort of agree with you, but I don't think the people who answered no aren't looking at trans men or women in a way they are not. :/ I am a trans boy. I am a boy. I do not have the parts a boy usually has. Yes, people shouldn't see me for my genitals, but I think there's a slight exception to that rule when it comes to people dating you. I mean, for a lot of people, sex is important, and even things like voice and appearances for trans people who don't pass. You can't expect an exclusively sexually gay man to be attracted to a transgender man unless that man looks like Aydian Dowling or something, and even if that trans man does, you can't REALLY expect the gay man to be attracted to this "Aydian Dowling" if sex with a bio-man is really important to him. The gay man is seeing this trans man for who he is, even the parts he doesn't like about himself. Now, if the gay man was calling this trans man "she" or a "lady", that would be incorrect, but it's not incorrect to recognize a trans man doesn't have the genitals you find important in a mate and reject them. I just brought this up because that little part of your quite where you mention "seeing trans people for who they are" bothers me.

    If you can't guess, I purposefully made this poll anonymous. XD I rarely do that, but I felt like this was a really personal question, even for EC, and I wanted to make sure people could vote however they wanted without being judged.
     
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    I agree with you. I would also prefer that people just vote according to their heart and be truthful about it and I respect those that do as long as they don't throw in a comment that is clearly transphobic and hurtful. I just wanted to raise awareness to the fact that there are multiple layers to this discussion and that perceiving the social pressures as purely negative ignores how serious the problem really is for trans people. No one here wants a person to vote yes just to conform. However, hopefully threads such as this will help take away some of their inhibitions and give the person in front of them a chance to show who they really are.
     
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    For me of course, as long as they're really and truly trans. I had a guy who tried to force himself on me once, and when I said no the first 20 times he went around and decided "He'd be a woman so I'd date him" nonono, that's not how it works. You don't just jump up and become trans because someone is gay and won't date you. Even if that was somehow the case, the pushy attitude isn't something I'd be able to handle.

    Thing is, the personality is a major aspect for me. I could care less about sex, but I surely want someone who I can relate to on an emotional level. If it's genuine and we both know it, there shouldn't be any issue.
     
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    Okay can we not have these threads?
     
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    No, because I wanted to create it. Don't diss on my thread bruh! :tantrum:
     
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    Who said I was dissing, first of all?
     
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    ...'tis was obviously a joke. Lighten up...
     
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    The poll says "certain" trans people so I clicked that, but for me, the answer would be trans people as a whole. I mean, why not?
     
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    Of course, I love all ladies. :wink:
     
  18. iiimee

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    Well, some people might want to list some standards they have in general that their trans partners have to meet too, so I decided to make the poll as loose as possible. You're free to specify if you would date any trans person or what, but I tried to make the poll as loose as possible, because not everyone will answer the question the same way.
     
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    I might be able to date a post op trans woman, but pre and no op are out of the question in most cases.
     
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    Oi... This shit again.

    ---------- Post added 11th Jul 2016 at 01:03 AM ----------

    Yes. Please.
     
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