My son just came out to me

YAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAYYYYYYYYYYY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I'm so proud of you. I am so glad to know that there are parents like that in this world. There needs to be more of you. I was raised a Christian and still am, and that right there is the true meaning of being a Christian.

 

Also, there could be certain obstacles, but it's really not such a hard road these days. If he's told several people and they're ok with it, there's really not much to worry about. Even if there's a bully, it sounds like someone will stand up for him.

 

It actually brought tears to my eyes, hearing how accepting and supportive you are. If only all parents could be as understanding and loving as you! The world would be a much more pleasant place for people like us. Now about this kid's father, I strongly believe that you should let your son decide when he should tell his father, or if he wants to do it himself. Being outed is a pretty awful experience (I would know), even if it's by a family member to another family member. It can be heartbreaking. You should definitely get your son's permission before telling anyone.

 

My had is off to you for the amazing amount of love and support you've showed your son. If more parents could be like you then the world would be a much better place.

 

YESSSSS!!!!!! Great job, mom. I wish I had a mom like you. Your son will be so much better off emotionally now that he knows he can come to you, and that he doesn't have to keep a secret. :eusa_clap

 

I totally agree with this. And would add that you could talk to your son about how he will deal with his father's potential reactions, and maybe discuss the different ways he could come out, eg. in person, or on the phone, or by mail. Not sure if that's making too big a deal out of it, I'm just thinking that it may help to prepare him if you're that sure of your ex's bad reaction. Anyway, you know your son best, I'm just making suggestions. Like everyone else in this post I was really touched by how supportive you are being and welled up reading the thread :tears:

 

Woah, woah, you're 12 year old son??? You sure you didn't mean 21?!

Heh, sorry, I'm appalled at how mature your son sounds, AND his friends at that matter... Good job, miss, you're raising this kid right!

 

You're an amazing and wonderful person. I'm 24 years old and still haven't come out to my family. Not because I don't want to, but because when I've tried in the past it's been shrugged off or ignored as a "phase." You're a truly amazing mother and your son has so much love (clearly) in his life that I'm sure the road won't be so rough :icon_bigg.

 

You're good parents.

 

You are amazing. If only more people in this world were like you!

 

I'm so happy to see such a good mother supporting her son!!!
Congratulations for being so kind and accepting your son. He might be scared now and is so good to have supporting parents, you can't even imagine!
But the bad part is that he will suffer. Not everyone is loving and accepting like you and your husband. Unfortunately most people still don't understand that love is love and being gay is completely natural. But he will have you during this long journey and, one day, he will find his soulmate and have his mother at his side to present her to the person he loves... That's freedom. That's it!
And if his father (or biological father in this case, since it seems your husband see your son as his son too) treats him bad because of who he is, just let him be a sad homophobic that will lose the chance to be close to the person he created.

Congratulations again! Hope everything goes well to you!

 

Oh my Lord! This thread is wonderful! You have such a good heart ma'am. All you have to do is poke around here for a bit and see how many people have internal issues due to lost family when they came out or a change in the relationship between family members. You have completely taken that off the table, and for that you really have earned my highest respect. As for the biological father, it may go badly, your son may get hurt. It is inevitable in life (for EVERYONE) that we'll come to know someone and then have that relationship destroyed. My two aunts got into a huge fight with me about a facebook status. I've known them for my whole life, and I basically told them to fuck off and not bother talking to me till it's time to say their Eulogy. That's just how stuff works unfortunately.

You seem like a wonderful lady, and I'm sure your son is lucky to have you as his mom!

 

Congratulations! Best of luck to your son and yourself in your future endeavors. I know it's gonna be a hard road ahead, but I'm sure he'll come out of this strong, he seems like a very strong willed person.

 

You are such good parents! Your son is so lucky to have your support! I'm coming out to my mom very soon and hope her response is like yours. It's really awesome that he was able to do this at 12! His life is going to be better in so many ways not having to hide this as a young adult.

 

I can feel your pride so strongly that I am proud of him as well....pretty proud of you for the job you have done as a mother as well. Your son, you and your story have made my whole body smile