Is oral sex sex ?

Induce orgasm=sex

 

Just found this pic saved on my laptop. :icon_cool

 

Some men do have problems orgasming. PIV sex or regardless. It's called delayed ejaculation as opposed to premature ejaculation. My boyfriend has this problem. And it has brought me to tears before because even though he says he enjoyed it, he has problems orgasming sometimes no matter what I do... It's frustrating.

 

Lol I hear ya, stocking.

 

My experience has been more similar statistically but then I've only been with one guy. From what my straight female friends have told me, the difference sounds about right, except some
of them don't orgasm hardly at all.

 

What's really sad about this is the fact that straight women are less likely to receive oral sex but yet they're expected to suck dick -.-;;

 

Well, that doesn't surprise me since women know the female body better. I've heard bi guys claim that guys are better at giving oral than girls are since they know the penis better

 

That and I think guys are more enthusiastic. The gay/bi guys I know say that the idea of sucking dick is so hot and desirable, but the straight/bi girls I know think It's 'gross/disgusting/"I'll only do it because he says so"....etc. The difference is kind of sad.

 

I think there's a misunderstanding here. It isn't about the guy getting off again, it's about the woman getting off the first time. Either that, or they finish themselves off. One woman I know jokingly referred to her husband as a "minuteman" (at least I hope she was joking)

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I've heard this complaint from my straight women friends as well.

 

Oh yeah, my girlfriend and I will always go down on each other. But I give my boyfriend a bj WAY more than he goes down on me. Yeah... :\

 

That is disappointing. You should tell him to go down more or else no more BJs for him haha

Plus I find it immature that some guys think It's 'gross' to go down yet they fail to see how BJ's are gross to some women. Funny society we live in.

 

I count oral sex as sex but I don't count it as actual sex. Does that make sense? Basically I don't oral sex as losing your virginity but I do count it as a type of sex lol. I hope that makes sense.

 

The concept of virginity is invalid. So no, that doesn't make sense.

 

Virginity is a stupid and evil concept that stigmatizes the sexually inexperienced.

 

Especially since it only refers to heterosexual intercourse in out society so It's weird to hear gay people use the term at all.

 

I don't consider it weird. I was a virgin until I had sex for the time with my boyfriend. I don't see why that's such an insane statement.

This idea that we need to be totally separate from heterosexuals and have our own sexual terms is a bit silly.

 

Because virginity has nothing to do with sexual experience really....? It's supposed to be about a woman being claimed as property for a man so he knew that the children she had would have his DNA. Men can't even be 'virgins' as the term itself is supposed to translate into 'pure maiden'.

Which is why the term only relates to heterosexual intercourse because It's about reproducing and having a correct DNA/paternal check over your partner. Hence why rape victims are bashed and considered non-virgins too.

Which is why to me, It's silly for gay people to reclaim it- It's a historically misogynistic term that doesn't even apply to our community in the first place.

 

Yes, I know the origin of the word "virgin", but that is different from how the word is used today. Many people use the word "virgin" to refer to a man who has not yet had sexual intercourse; words are defined by how they are used, not how they used to be used.

I can understand why you don't like the term and why you wouldn't want to use it, however, sometimes the term is convenient and I have used it to describe myself without any negative connotations.