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If you don't already have kids, do you want them?

Discussion in 'Chit Chat' started by LaurenSkye, Jun 29, 2020.

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Do you want kids?

  1. Yes

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    31.6%
  2. No

    26 vote(s)
    45.6%
  3. Not sure

    13 vote(s)
    22.8%
  1. mellissa

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    Same. I really want to be an aunt. I think that I would be a better aunt than mother.
     
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    You'd also get to have all of the fun with them but when they start being annoying, just hand them back to their parents! :laughing:
     
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    They are, most often temporary(implanted for a full term pregnancy then removed).
    A sibling to sibling transplant could be more permanent.
     
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    Wow. I had no clue it is being done on people already.

    It would be nice if they invented FtM sperm and MtF egg cells too. So that you could have biological children with someone of the same gender assigned at birth.
     
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    That biological aspect is why my sister would give me hers.
    Yes, not biological to me, but still biological for my familial bloodline.
     
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    Cool :slight_smile: Also a lot of luck, I don’t have any siblings and lots of people have bad repationships with siblings too, like my ex gf.
     
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    I do. It is something I think about, especially now that I am at the age when my parents married and a number of my peers have or are having children. Being asexual is a bit of a roadblock to that, but not insurmountable.
     
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    Some people have told me they think I'd make a good dad. I wonder if there is any truth in that. People in retail or when shopping have sometimes assumed I had children, based on their comments and small talk. I believe that, over the long-term, I would not have been cut out to be a parent. It's better to tread cautiously up front than finding out later.

    Parenting pets can be good. If you don't take the upper hand and set boundaries early on, pets will walk all over you like some kids do to their parents.
     
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    I love kids and I did want them but I’ve rethought it. I’m 28, still single and I have a degenerative muscle condition that eventually will mean I’ll need a full time carer because I won’t be able to move. Any partner I have or any kids I have will probably end up in that position and I don’t want to do that to anyone. I know I couldn’t physically handle a baby even now because I sit when holding peoples kids because my arms are week. I was able to hold a newborn for 5 minutes before I had to hand her off because my arms hurt. Also I don’t think I have the patience or energy to raise a kid. I have siblings and I’d like to be the aunt who spoils the kids then hands the sugar crazed monsters back to the parents at the end of the day. I love kids but I don’t think I’ll have any. I would foster but I think my disability rules that out, also I still live with my parents because I can’t afford anything else.
     
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    I refuse to contribute to the cycle of pain and suffering in my family. Even adoption would be tainted, as I would not make a good parent. Absolutely not
     
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    For how I am right now? (mentally that is) No, though that may change in the future.
     
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    No because I have Attention Deficit Disorder and I don't want a kid to have to deal with having the same disability as me and I just don't see myself as a parent.
     
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    I'm a teenager at the moment but once I'm an adult and have graduated from college + have some sort of job I definitely want kids because I just think that kids are great.
     
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    I don't blame all of you. First of all, children are expensive to take care of and raise. Second, you'll be glad if your daughter or son leaves home for college at age 18.
    It may be stressful just to deal with a child who may have been born with a disorder. Parenting is hard and you will make mistakes but don't repeat them.
    When it comes to homeschooling nowadays, you need to research textbook sources and online school sites such as Pearson or IXL.

    "Raise your daughter(s) to be wild feminists, to be smarter and wiser. Teach them to be aware of stranger danger especially males.
    Raise Better Sons and teach them to respect society especially us females."

    Also, if you don't want to have kids, don't breed. Also, wear condoms both of u male and female.
    There is too many of us humans destroying nature and ourselves.
     
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    Coming from the other direction.

    I had children because it was what I was supposed to do and because my spouse really wanted them. I wish that I had not done so for many reasons.
     
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    Same, I wanted them as a young girl but once I grew up I no longer did. Not sure why, I think I became disillusioned after taking care of other people’s kids (Nieces, cousins etc. )
     
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    I'm flexible about this. I feel like if I ended up in a relationship with someone else who wanted kids, I'd be open to it; however, having kids is certainly not a wish or requirement for my future.
     
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    No. Never.

    It sounds way too expensive, stressful and scary for my fragile soul.
     
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    I want a few. But i never want to be pregnant, cause I hate the idea of being taken over like that. I can't even stand wearing tight clothes, no way I can stand a beach ball on me tummy.
     
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