How do gay guys hide it?

I just keep to myself and try not to have any attention focused on me at all.

 

I mean.. i don't really hide it that much. I get asked if I'm guy occasionally at school and I just reply "nope." to the people that ask. That person just forgets about it and we go on with our lives. I talk to everyone in school.. I talk to the jocks, the "nerds", the preps, the "trashy" people.. which I think shouldn't be treated any differently, the wealthy kids, and the upper clansmen. I am what you could consider popular in a sense. Everyone knows me.. Everyone talks to me.. MOst people like me because I get along with everyone. I'm just overall easy to get along with.. (This probably makes me sound like a stuck up person. Trust me. I'm not!) So most people just let me be as I am. I haven't been asked in about 2 months. It usually comes in waves though. When one person asks, another one will ask either that day or the day after. Then it blows over for months at a time and it happens again... so basically if somebody asked me tomorrow if I were gay, I'd expect more people to ask me if I was gay a few more times that week.. Then it's forgotten... So basically I don't really HIDE it.. I mean I do by saying no.. but other than that I don't really do much. I wouldn't say I am flaming.. but I wouldn't say I'm masculine. I care about my appearance. I hang around with multiple females at a time.. but I hang around with guys too. Nobody knows I'm gay at all.. but I'm sure they wonder.. but it's kind of like having an agreement to where everyone is nice to me if I'm nice to them.. but I'm sure if I came out.. it'd be another story.

 

Haha Fortunately, I don't really have to do much to hide it. I go about my days just being me and people don't seem to assume that I'm anything but straight. I guess I just don't that any of those typical gay traits that gives a person away.

But then again, it's hard sometimes to not be able to talk about guys with my friends and that's the only thing I have to hide. I have to watch myself and not check a guy out in public in too obvious of a way and not have a slip of the tongue and say "he's hot" or something like that. Some of my guy friends talk about girls with me and the best I can do is go along with it and try my best to go with the conversation haha.

I wouldn't recommend being anything but yourself. Like some people have said, the "covering up" game is more often than not very apparent. If you happen to be one of those guys who don't come off gay, great, but if you are but want to tone it down a little...well, just tone it down a little I guess lol but I'm not sure what that means

 

honestly, i don't think that there's much you can do to hide from someone with a really good gaydar but you still can hide it from people that you know and have to deal with daily such as family and close friends that you're not out to. that's who i worry about. when i was deeply in denial, i was worried about a gay guy spotting me but nowadays, it's like whatever.

 

Wish they didn't i have the worst gaydar in the world!

 

This, sans the part that I've never denied that I'm gay. I do that quite a lot, especially if I feel unsafe.

 

I stopped trying to hide it but I'm still in the closet. I'm not super flamboyant or anything, I'm more in the middle. Personally, I think there are at least enough signs that people who I see a lot should at least be questioning my sexuality, maybe not sure, but at least skeptical. Either way, no one has said anything to me. Maybe they're just being polite, idk, I guess I'll find out one day when I come out.

 

Please don't take offence, but this thread reminded me of a scene in the Peter Cook and Dudley Moore film, a spoof of the Hound of the Baskervilles.

In it, Lord Baskerville is describing a terrible storm which hits the ship as he is making the crossing from the US to claim his inheritance. He says the waves were washing him this way and that, and Dr Watson asks:

"And did you manage to drag yourself up on deck?"

To which Lord Baskerville replies:

"Ooh no. I just dressed casual."


Sorry - it's so childish but I laugh every time

 

I'm not trying to hide it that much because by now I am already out to almost anyone I care about. Still, when Im not among friends, I try not to stare at the really attractive guys from my school while they are changing clothes for gym class (I say I try lol). Around my parents, whom Im not out to, I just put on earphones while listening to judy garland, and wait until very late at night to open my iPad and watch my beloved supply of daily porn ;-)

 

No one ever suspects me of being bi.. My friends were talking about who they suspected of being gay. I didn't say a thing cause I didn't want to draw attention to myself. One of them later asked everyone else their opinion if I was gay. The typical response, "he's too manly to be gay". fml lol

 

I can't.

 

Hello Everyone.
Am new on the bit.
This week appears to be a great eye-opener for me, as I have been looking for a suitable chat site/blog as this.

Am extremely excited to have come across this site and topics .This is as a result of the fact that my current situation is almost putting me on a rough edge, that I honestly wonder why I had not discovered this site ever since.
I need some quick help and advice, and you guys may probably be in the best situation to guide me through.

Now I slightly sound like the guy on the other side of Empty Mirror's scenario; so give me tips

I came across a guy early this year, and since then, I have not given myself any form of rest over him. He looked like Magic to me.I did everything to make him become my friend.But I was earlier scared on how I will go about it.
so I just had to find a way out through a mutual male friend whom hes very close to.

He being an extremely polite and decent guy, was very pleased to meet me.
I have afterwards bothered him with texts, calls etc every single week and he responds very slowly.it had almost been eating me up for months,until I came across a story on radio on relationships, talking about observing the signs 'that yur partner's relationship with you is not goin to work...if you care more about yur partner than he does bout u...'

I recorded it and listened & listened & listened, then I confided in a female friend I trust so much, she is so Godly and cooperative.She advsed me to keep off for some time, that he will come back.
I decided to stop calls and texts, and cut off for about 2 weeks painfully anyway;after some time, this extremely dashing beautiful well-shaped guy with straight nose, called me shockingly to register his complaints why i have cut off from him,this was to my amazement.
I kept apologizing, that I was busy which was not the truth.. I almost cudnt sleep that night he called...my world looked new...


Previously I used to invite him to places and occassion,which He did not honour; he was always fond of giving one excuse or the other, My female friend said it could be coming from the house he stays which belongs to his ld classmate.That the classmate may be wondering who I was.
I therefore summoned up courage to visit him at home and get to meet his guardians.

Intrestingly, they are people I know very well as family frends,it was from there I was able to know this son of theirs who is the former classmate, and he turned out very amicable and friendly. but my intrest was this guy, eventually he started honouring my visits after that..
He is such an eloquent, intelligent, well -spoken, well-read and well brought-up person that right now, I dont now know what to do.
He tells me a lot about himself and his family that am sure he doesnt tell people becos he does not like many friends at all.hardly talks to anyone, and has no intrest in girls at all.Infact I feel he doesnt go out of his way to make friends, everything shows that people always want to know him.he has that charm I cannot explain.
From what I see, he is the kind of person whom girls run after; I thought I was the only one who felt so, until I was equally told.

he unfortunate thing is that he is very straight....from what I can see...........but I find it hard to accept it.

The sweet slender chap looks gay in appearance, loves putting on short amd slim fitted tops, always bringing out his cute shape.His sexy voice sends me virtulally melting.....honestly.

Now thi very Last Friday, he visited me in my work place, he has accompanied me home twice,but cant stay long cos my family members are there.

My problem now is that I dont know how to pick up from here.

My discovery recently is that when I tickle or play with his waist, he tries to move off politely......I dont know what to do.

He never forgets to give me a smile.

Infact when talking to me, he gives me a lot of smile,but he never shows that he wants me so desperately, like I do.

Now he does more calling than me.But he is always so calm and collected, while I always sound so full of excitement and enthusiasm.

But its like he takes me as a friend, which is not exactly what I only want.

And am so scared to tell him how I feel about him.

Guys, I am really really scared.....
I have never had anything with a man in my entire life, but I've always had the picture of it right from my university days.

If I go ahead to tell him,it will cause me a lot if he doesnt say he is also in love with me also.Honestly it will be hard to live with it.

Am not intrested in sex as it sounds.
I just want to romance this guy so beautifully,kiss the living daylight out of him.

But am really scared. He respects me so much....sounds kinda more religious in all he does. He was with me last friday till evening, I didnt just know what to say.I was so sad when we were driving round town, becos he looks strict somehow,
He tells me so many personal stories about life,family,business etc
But nothing on how we can be together or do things together.
Now my greatest problem is that I wake up thinking of this boy, I sleep, eat,drive thinking of him.
I just want to kiss & Kiss & kiss this guy, and touch his beautiful body so much.....no intercourse at all.
Pls I need advice on this matter

 

Its not that hard to hide being gay, you just dont tell anyone, simple as that, heck im openly gay and people still have to ask me if its true

 

I really don't have to hide. Yes, I'm closeted to a lot of people (family is a big part), but I act straight for the most part. So, I don't have to worry too much.

 

I never really hid it. It was just simply the worst kept secret ever. Whenever someone would ask, I would say no though.

 

I just say I am not into sleeping around with anyone...and when i get into a relationship it will be long term, when I am ready

 

The way I see it, a lot of people perceive 'gay' as being flamboyant, and effeminate. I think that the idea of being gay doesn't entirely mean that one needs to follow social quotas regarding that. And there are gays who aren't 'painfully obvious' in that they can be like anyone else, and do just about anything you might not consider 'gay', but still have that intrinsic interest in men.
Anyways, to answer your question, I think the best way is to simply be yourself. Unless you've got the attributes most dominantly associated with the identity, you shouldn't otherwise be perceived by heteronormative society as homosexual . Unless you're going to point out that really attractive same-sex person to someone...

 

Well, the last few years people started to suspect that I'm gay because I was somewhat feminine/flamboyant, so I acted like I was really into girls and stuff and I was really flirtatious with them. I'm still not out yet, but I definately plan on telling some of my friends this year.

 

I don't hide it. People assume I'm straight unless they either A) have a really good gaydar or B) they themselves are gay. Actually, I have had a few gay guys go "wait, you're gay?" in complete surprise so whatever.

 

I didn't do anything. I never actually had to try to hide it. In fact, I even dropped some hints at it for the longest time.