How do gay guys hide it?

I know a gay christian that has to date a girl because his strict christian mom made them date!

 

By deleting all of the Lana del Rey songs on your ipod.

 

To be honest, because of my gentle manner, and inability to act like a 'stereotypical male', a lot of folks used to think or accuse me of being gay even when I (thought I) was straight, so at least now their appraisal of me will match the reality of the situation as it currently stands.

 

People just assume I'm straight and I have never felt the courage to correct them on their assumptions.

 

Pretty much this. I used to try to conceal my orientation. I avoided behaviors that could potentially hint at homosexuality. I honestly don't care anymore, but I'm still too low on confidence to correct any assumptions.

 

Well, I dont act or do anything apart from, obviously, not pursuing girls, or having my BF over for cuddles.

If I have to come out fully the only thing that would change is that my parents and anyone else who cares, will know that I am into guys.

 

Well, I hardly talk about myself when talking to friends, so this includes sex and crushes. When I do, I let them guess and I'm honest when they guess, so if they say, "is it a girl in your English class?", it honestly isn't.
On the odd occasion, I let myself "get caught" looking at a girl, accidentally on purpose.
Easy to say something and not mean it.
I'm familiar with sexual lingo for men and women.

It really is child's play.

 

been out for almost 10 years now Im not one for letting on that am gay need to get to know someone a bit before I mention it .

 

I think that some people pass for a while. For the average downtown guy in a suit who doesn't look around and doesn't rubberneck, just seeing him or even watching him eat lunch may not indicate anything. It's only when you know them better that something slips through the cracks and it's usually one or more of those stereotypical attributes. When a gay guy who's not that convincing at being straight starts in on the "hot chick" diatribe, it definitely makes it worse and makes him more suspect.

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I'm on board with your posture. And you're certainly not offending me. You're just being yourself.

 

I think it's because I don't "look like" a stereotype gay guy and defy a lot of the stereotypes, heck...a lot of gay guys do. I think once the person gets to know me better and what I enjoy, then it becomes harder to conceal.

 

Ditto.