Re: Did any of you not know that you were attracted to the same sex when you were a t I think perhaps for many of us, it caught us by surprise. 30s, 40s, and beyond, suddenly an attraction to someone or some other evidence was brought to light that you can no longer pretend it's not happening. So, reeling from this discovery, we join EC and try to make sense of it all. And when that happens, the natural thing seems to be to examine your attractions throughout your life and try and discover if that thing was there all along or if it just came out of nowhere. At this point some people find hard evidence they were just plain gay from the start. I feel that these are the lucky ones, in that at least they now know 100%, and the only hard part left is now coming to terms with it, accepting yourself, and integrating your life to wholeness. Others find conflicting or ambiguous evidence, which doesn't really help in figuring out who you are if there is no hard data on your attractions as a teen. It just seems to make coming to terms with yourself that much harder as an adult if there is conflicting evidence if you are gay or not, or bi, or just attracted to certain people regardless of their LGBT or gender presentation.