Before I found this message board in early 2013, I did not think it possible for someone to not know that they felt attracted to the same sex when they were teenagers and then later find out that they're gay. I had read before that sexual orientation is more fluid for females, but I thought that for guys it was: Once gay, always gay. Once straight, always straight. There are men here who have said that they didn't know that they were gay until they were in their 30s, 40s, and even 50s. What I suspect is that these guys who said that they did not know that they were gay until they were middle aged is that they always knew that they felt some physical attraction to some people of the same sex, but they did not equate that physical attraction with being gay or bisexual. This is a question for people who didn't realize that they were gay until they were middle aged. Did any of you not know that you felt physical attraction to some people of the same sex until you were in your 30s, 40s, or 50s?