Coming out as gay

Yes it feels so natural for me to flirt, date, talk dirty with men and also that I wanted to where with trying to date women or flirt it felt forced but when I was repressed I just told myself it was because I was scared.

I went from years of 'what's wrong with me, why can't I be turned on by this" to a sense of relief.

I have realized that this is what I desire sexually the most, the idea of it happening to me turns me on more than anything else so it's natural in the hetronormative world that this is what we identified with before acceptance.

Me too I couldn't figure out why- but this makes sense! Also the feminine treatment of each other.

 

I was just thinking of how I listened to years of 'locker room' talk about how she has a 'great ass' or gawking over the "Swimsuit Edition"
Then I remember my experience at the ballet with a date, realizing unmistakingly, that guy in tights looked much hotter than the women and I involuntarily was super turned on when I looked at him. I started shaking and sweating with passion and I realized I felt nothing but awkwardness about my beautiful (female) date sitting beside me. But because I was in denial, rather than an affirming experience this was terrifying.

So what I was naturally attracted to I was also scared and ashamed about. I am sure others have experienced this too so getting used to feeling not only normal about it but happy is important!

 

Hi notsureatall
I have to agree with what you have mention above. I too enjoy watching romantic gay porn with lots of kissing and respect from both partners. I aiso enjoy watching movies with gay characters that are portrayed in a normal loving way.
though what I really enjoy and feel proud about, is when I see two men walking down the street holding hands and obviously being in love. That tells me society has come a long way, though there is still a way to go.

 

Hi @Notsureatall,
I agree with your thoughts on this matter.

With lesbian sex, I found this European girl 'Jo' who loves girls asses.Her videos were always very loving and touching. She would make love to these girls. Plus, she was and still is very attractive blond women. That is what I loved about watching her, the lovemaking was out of this world. She educated me on the pleasures of gay sex.

I have those same standards when watching gay porn. I want romance and lovemaking. I recently watched a gay video from the 80's and it captured these qualities. Didn't seem like acting. Just pure gay men making love. Beautiful to watch. I knew that something was unique with me in being gay. The intensity level was higher with watching gay men vs straight sex or lesbian sex.

 

I perfer to make love with another man than rather have sex. It is the closeness,comfort of being with another man. The holding touching afterward is what it is all about. I like to cuddle with him and relax. Pamper him a bit.
With sex it is we both got off lets get dressed.

 

This is true. Making love encompasses so much more pleasure. Two men embracing the erotic sensuality that is gay loving making is incredibly hot. The foreplay, the fireworks and the warm fondling while we cuddle is beyond words. No woman could ever compare to that sensation.

 

Notsureatall
That is so romantic , it is wonderful to read.
I love this topic
We are discussing what is natural and normal to us

 

I shared a similar experience as many here. Looking at straight porn, but finding myself focused more on the male and, of course, his man parts. Also, after one poster's mention of Hustler magazine, I recall reading Penthouse magazine letters and there was always one letter that referred to a chance gay experience. Even though I was "straight," I was highly drawn almost exclusively to those letters. Finally, when I worked up the nerve to purchase my first gay magazine (pre-internet), I was surprised at how turned on I got looking at men.

 

Gay sex between men especially, is erotic. More erotic than a man and a woman. It's scandalous.

'Straight men' for example, my father who can't fathom the idea of same sex relationships. I think its a fear of not being a 'man'. He's scared of something. I love my dad but, he just doesn't really want to accept the other possibilities of life. The ones that are not advertised all the time.

It could be his childhood, but then that would be the result of me. Not the he forces his opinions on me, but his opinions are clearly evident. He jokes about gay men quite alot, and, it interests me? Why is this seen as wrong? They can't make a baby? Is that it?Because, I think 'gay' sex is beautiful and I see human nature in it.

Sex, and procreation are different. Sex is not always about making children. the female body would be exhausted for example as we're not meant to carry children 24/7 . There many ways you can find pleasure other than sex. Like eating. So why not 2 men finding pleasure in eachother?

Humans think too much. That's our problem, we overthink. If we feel it, if we see it, it must be real. So , just be .

 

I whole heartedly agree that gay sex is much more erotic than that with a woman. Having been on both “teams” I can say unequivocally that gay sexuality is more erotic, sensual, romantic and just more pleasurable than with a woman. I am staying on the gay team permanently!

 

That makes me so happy inside!
I'm not sure what I'm attracted too, I'm attracted to passion, and I want to be apart of it all! but it doesn't bother me because sexuality itself will always be a complex, but mysterious thing. It's beautiful. Life as a human being is beautiful.

 

My first time was set up by my girlfriend who set me up with a hairdresser she know from where she went. I met him once very quick. She told him how we discussed my sexuallity. Now questioning all of it. Met for dinner we talked ,had a few drinks went back to his place . It was the best sex I ever had. It changed me for life . The first time I ever felt at ease and so natural having sex. So now its men forever.

 

This was my experience as well. The first time I was intimate with another man despite a somewhat clumsy and awkward start it was the best sex I ever had. Never experienced that level of passion and sensuality before with a woman. It was as natural as breathing. I remember waking up the next morning spooning with him and thinking if this is gay I am all in. 100% gay now and forever.

 

I love your certainty! I'm also married in a straight marriage and realizing I've always been queer and wondering how to proceed.

 

As you have another person involved you need to take that person into consideration as well. As frustrating as your