Being Turned On

I think it's more of a general tendency than an absolute rule. Guys and girls are more likely to be turned on by different things, but both can be turned on by either.

 

I have heard, too, that guys tend to be more visually stimulated, which is an explanation for porn. No idea about women... One possible advantage of being gay: gay guys don't really have to understand what turns a woman on. :icon_bigg Although from the stories I've read from married women, it sounds like a lot of husbands out there (1,000,000,000% straight) don't understand what turns a woman on, either.

One issue for you, Dublin Boy, might be what you are reading. If it's something that creates a strong mental image, that might be just like seeing something with your eyes.

I, myself, can find myself turned on by something written. I'm not as interested in visual stuff now. I've seen porn, but it's not something I'm interested in every day. Perhaps interest is fading as I grow older... I could get quite, ah, excited catching sight of a nude boy in the junior high locker room when I was 13. Now, I see a hot man, nude, in a locker room, I feel some twinge...but it's nothing like it was when I was 13. Then, again, when I was 13 I was boiling with hormones. Little boys, as the rhyme goes, are made of puppy dog tails. Adding to that: teenage boys are made 100% of hormones.

 

As biologically female, I find myself getting more turned on by well written stories/scenarios, roleplay works a treat for me also. Porn doesn't work well for me and that's all I really know about myself. Hahaha.

 

Erotic stories turn me on just as well as porn does, sometimes even better.

 

Well, it's different. Words, sights, sounds, etc can all turn me on, just not the same way, exactly. Porn is more for that raw, physical, and frenzied drive', but in that state, really, anything would do. Erotic literature does the opposite - relaxes and stimulates me mentally, especially if I can see myself as one of the characters or in one of the contexts presented. Yaoi and slash do little for me, and I find most overly-dramatic, drawn out, or unrealistic, though it's still interesting to see what turns others on.

You could say the 'ideal' turn on would involve several of the factors mentioned above, and it's definitely possible to be turned on one way, say, physically, and be left wanting emotionally and mentally. The only situations I could see fulfilling these needs would be to either religiously follow some show involving sex and relationships, or to experience myself, and having done enough of the first, I'd rather experience the second.

Just the other day a friend of mine drove me insane, doing something between flirting, mind games, and teasing. It's difficult to explain my reaction, but it's probably the closest thing to a 'full body attraction' I can think of.

 

It's about as true as "guys like sports and girls like clothes". It's true of some but not others. I personally prefer written erotica over porn.

Lex

 

I am so like you

 

Nowhere are the differences between teenaged boys and older men more apparent than on EC. :lol:

 

So very, very true.

 

Written porn was pretty much the first porn I encountered that did anything for me (we had Playboy and Penthouse in the house growing up and that was about as interesting as a text on tax accountancy - apologies to any tax accountants on the forum).

Still plays a major role in any serious me time even if also include images as part of the entertainment.

Todd

 

I have been both turned on by images alone and sometimes texts... sometimes some threads on EC >_<

 

Since coming out to my wife and being much more at ease with my sexuality I found that my taste in porn changed from watching “Action” videos to viewing higher quality still photos of guys and letting my imagination do the rest. I use a 30” computer monitor so I can make guys heads life size, great for looking at 2 guys kissing, it’s like they’re right next to me.

 

I can get turned on by many things. I was one of the unfortunate people that decided to read '50 shades of gray', I can tell you now that I got frequent boners.

Things like mere skin-to-skin contact with someone I like can turn me on or if they say something to me that is suggestive of sex. My friends flirts with me for a joke, sometimes my body see's it differently.

 

It's a generalization but it's true that men are more visual and women are more verbal.

The problem is that the list of things that turn guys off is substantially shorter than the list of things that turn the on.

 

There`s also the generalization that women need to be in a good mood for sex, but men needs sex to be in a good mood Generally, it seems to have some grain in truth, but you`ll also find a lot of men who`ll temporarily lose their lust for sex due to stress, negative emotions, etc. So, I am "meh" about generalizations as of a general

I`m female, and I`m very visual, but mostly it`s more about mental visualization than that I actually have to see it. But I do feel that on those days when it`s hard to get my mind into the right track, reading something or watching something erotic can be very effective. Problem with both is that the quality of it really matters. If it`s stupid, I`ll laugh, but it`s not going to be a turn-on. In any case, point is; written erotica can also be visual in the way that you can imagine it mentally while reading, in any way you prefer. You can make the main character a blonde or a brunette, you can envision her/him exactly how you like it, so it has some advantages to porn, unless it`s written badly

 

When I masturbate, I tend to use erotic stories far more often than pornography. I find the fantasy of imagining that I am in the story much more arousing than close up shots of greased up assholes and insincere moaning.

I understand that I'm on the other side of this coin from most guys, and that's fine, as others have said it's more of a tendency than a hard and fast rule. And this defintiely doesn't have anything to do with me being feminine or anything.. I'm quite a masculine guy. And I do enjoy porn sometimes -- mostly cumshot compilations.. love cum.. ANYWAY.. lol.. tmi..

Either way, you're fine. Just discover what turns you on and run with it. Don't worry too much about what this or that source says you should or people like you should like.

 

Gay porn doesnt work for me anymore lol!Ive seen so many gay porn movies that my satisfying levels are way high now.But when i look guys outside i get aroused so much that when i go home ill have to masturbate thinking of them lol,sometimes i finish early what i got to do just to go home and do that.When im hard anything can turn me on,especially guys with tattoos..sometimes word can do it too but i dont feel so satisfied.