1. This site uses cookies. By continuing to use this site, you are agreeing to our use of cookies. Learn More.

Are you the only LGBT person in your family?

Discussion in 'Chit Chat' started by BocciBee, Nov 8, 2022.

?

Are there other LGBT people in your family?

  1. Yes

    58.3%
  2. No

    28.6%
  3. I think there might be, but they haven't told me

    13.1%
  1. Saskia96

    Full Member

    Joined:
    Sep 10, 2023
    Messages:
    68
    Likes Received:
    28
    Location:
    Germany
    Gender:
    Female (trans*)
    Gender Pronoun:
    She
    Sexual Orientation:
    Other
    Out Status:
    Not out at all
    My second cousin came out as trans.
     
  2. regina75

    Regular Member

    Joined:
    Dec 6, 2023
    Messages:
    10
    Likes Received:
    0
    Location:
    louisiana
    Gender:
    Genderqueer
    Gender Pronoun:
    Other
    Sexual Orientation:
    Bisexual
    Out Status:
    Not out at all
    my father was cd and bi
     
  3. BlueLion

    Full Member

    Joined:
    Feb 28, 2015
    Messages:
    329
    Likes Received:
    105
    Location:
    Spain
    Gender:
    Male
    Gender Pronoun:
    He
    Sexual Orientation:
    Gay
    Out Status:
    Some people
    No, I'm not. As far as I know there are, at least, two more. (I have a lot of uncles, aunts and cousins; so statistically it makes sense).
     
  4. Keller

    Full Member

    Joined:
    Aug 26, 2023
    Messages:
    275
    Likes Received:
    180
    Location:
    Latvia
    Gender:
    Female (trans*)
    Gender Pronoun:
    She
    Sexual Orientation:
    Bisexual
    Out Status:
    Some people
    My late father was openly bisexual and was ostracised by most of family when he came out about it.
    Also, my older daughter mentioned that she thinks she might be non-binary, but is yet to figure it out.
     
  5. zgaynz

    Regular Member

    Joined:
    Dec 22, 2021
    Messages:
    126
    Likes Received:
    245
    Location:
    NZ
    Gender:
    Male
    Gender Pronoun:
    He
    Sexual Orientation:
    Gay
    Out Status:
    Some people
    No I'm not. I have gay male cousins that I know of. I guess there could be more and some in the closet wouldn't surprise me either.
     
  6. tearingtherose

    Full Member

    Joined:
    Dec 16, 2023
    Messages:
    151
    Likes Received:
    85
    Location:
    Birmingham, UK
    Gender:
    Male
    Gender Pronoun:
    He
    Sexual Orientation:
    Gay
    Out Status:
    A few people
    I have a gay cousin and a trans cousin. Growing up I thought my parents would be abhorred if I came out and I was pleasantly surprised that they just took my cousins coming out in their stride. Perhaps I'll tell them one day!
     
  7. Sammy1995

    Full Member

    Joined:
    Dec 16, 2023
    Messages:
    138
    Likes Received:
    138
    Location:
    Plymouth
    Gender:
    Female (trans*)
    Gender Pronoun:
    She
    Sexual Orientation:
    Bisexual
    Out Status:
    Out to everyone
    Not that I know of. Would have made my childhood a lot easier if I had met like any older trans people even outside my family. All I saw was ugly caricatures in comedy which I'm sure are very funny for a lot of people, it just didn't help my self image.
     
  8. tearingtherose

    Full Member

    Joined:
    Dec 16, 2023
    Messages:
    151
    Likes Received:
    85
    Location:
    Birmingham, UK
    Gender:
    Male
    Gender Pronoun:
    He
    Sexual Orientation:
    Gay
    Out Status:
    A few people
    I have a couple of trans friends who have said much the same. Similarly I found I didn't identify with gay characters growing up as they were always camp or quite feminine, of which I'm neither. The first gay character I actually identified with in any way is Captain Holt on Brooklyn 99, well after I grew up.
     
  9. Sammy1995

    Full Member

    Joined:
    Dec 16, 2023
    Messages:
    138
    Likes Received:
    138
    Location:
    Plymouth
    Gender:
    Female (trans*)
    Gender Pronoun:
    She
    Sexual Orientation:
    Bisexual
    Out Status:
    Out to everyone
    Captain Holt is awesome and yeah one of the things that always annoyed me about representation in media is that a lot of it was about skin deep. I loved Steins; Gate because despite maybe being a little rough around the edges they obviously actually tried to show what being trans was, not perverted or sexualised but just being born the wrong sex and the anguish that comes with that.
     
  10. Steff

    Regular Member

    Joined:
    Jan 2, 2024
    Messages:
    27
    Likes Received:
    29
    Location:
    Australia
    Gender:
    Female (trans*)
    Gender Pronoun:
    Other
    Sexual Orientation:
    Gay
    Out Status:
    A few people
    No not in my family, although there probably is. I lived within a very homophonic environment. After many years I’ve now came out to my wife, it was a very difficult decision, she has been wonderful and very supportive, and has not shouted it out from the rooftops. If I have had gay and transgender relative, and the encouragement and support I think it would’ve helped and I would probably be a transsexual woman today.
     
  11. ElDaverino

    Regular Member

    Joined:
    Jan 11, 2024
    Messages:
    3
    Likes Received:
    0
    Location:
    Manchester UK
    Gender:
    Male
    Gender Pronoun:
    He
    Sexual Orientation:
    Questioning
    Out Status:
    Not out at all
    I think my Mum and Dad were both gay at birth, but born when it was illegal and decided to be straight. I should be thankful because I'm here, but Dad left and Mum had me 'corrected' via conversion therapy, so I'm resentful. Particularly of Mum as she is keeping up the charade 40 years on so I've had to go no contact.

    I also think two of my elder sisters might be too, though I may be projecting because they assisted with the cover up to aid Mum's mental health.
     
  12. ThirdEyeGaze

    Regular Member

    Joined:
    Jan 9, 2015
    Messages:
    29
    Likes Received:
    0
    Location:
    bc canada
    Gender:
    Male
    Gender Pronoun:
    He
    Sexual Orientation:
    Bisexual
    Out Status:
    A few people
    Immediate family yes, but I have a trans cousin
     
  13. LakanLunti

    Full Member

    Joined:
    Jan 30, 2015
    Messages:
    109
    Likes Received:
    1
    Location:
    Philippines
    Gender:
    Male
    Gender Pronoun:
    He
    Sexual Orientation:
    Gay
    Out Status:
    Out to everyone
    In my family, relatives on father-side and mother-side, I am the only queer one. But one of my mom's (many) cousins is a transman. I have a vague memory of him carrying me when I was still little. I kinda wanna reconnect with him and have a convo with him about being queer in a very conservative family.
     
  14. Argentwing

    Full Member

    Joined:
    Dec 13, 2012
    Messages:
    6,696
    Likes Received:
    3
    Location:
    New England
    Gender:
    Male
    Gender Pronoun:
    He
    Sexual Orientation:
    Bisexual
    Out Status:
    Out to everyone
    In my immediate family, yes I'm the only one. But my older half-sister came out as lesbian.

    Oddly enough I found it made it harder for me to come out. My mom rolled her eyes when her marriage to another woman came up in conversation, and I figured my dad, being conservative, would be disappointed that two out of his three kids were queer. But it turned out just fine. She was the first person in my family I came out to for obvious reasons, and I know it has brought us closer.
     
  15. skloorrpt

    Full Member

    Joined:
    May 7, 2020
    Messages:
    168
    Likes Received:
    43
    Location:
    Minnesota
    Gender:
    Other
    Gender Pronoun:
    They
    Sexual Orientation:
    Other
    Out Status:
    A few people
    I have an older cousin who is gay on my dad's side of the family. As far as I know, I'm the only one on my mom's side. I have a lot of younger cousins on her side though, so it's possible I'm not the only one. That side of the family is pretty religious and conservative so I'm not out to them yet. The only people I'm out to are my best friend and my brothers. I'm a little scared to come out to my mom's side, but sometimes I feel like I should just in case I'm not the only one. I feel like it could help some of my cousins if it turns out any of them are also queer.
     
  16. Altanero

    Full Member

    Joined:
    Aug 24, 2018
    Messages:
    139
    Likes Received:
    82
    Location:
    Spain
    Gender:
    Male
    Gender Pronoun:
    He
    Sexual Orientation:
    Gay
    Out Status:
    Out to everyone
    Yes, in my close family. A distant relative is too, but it doesn't make easier to come out to that side of my family. I'm the only queer sibling and son.