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Are you the only LGBT person in your family?

Discussion in 'Chit Chat' started by BocciBee, Nov 8, 2022.

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Are there other LGBT people in your family?

  1. Yes

    58.3%
  2. No

    28.6%
  3. I think there might be, but they haven't told me

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  1. redstatic

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    My cousin is bi, and my sister has told me she's bicurious, but in a straight long term relationship and doesn't want to give that up in order to explore her sexuality more. Then, there's someone who I'm not related to but we all call her our honorary cousin who was pan, the last time I checked. There's also another cousin I suspect might be gay..?? But that's a theory, with no evidence other than 'there's a lot of siblings there, one must be queer' lmfao.

    It was really nice growing up with a cousin my age who was also queer. We used to talk about our crushes on girls when we were younger, it gave me a very solid sense of normalcy, even if I was still figuring things out. She was also the first person I told I might be trans when I was 16-17 and she's been an amazing ally.
     
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    I was the only one in my family (mom, stepdad, stepbrothers) and was eventually kicked out because of it when I was 17. Sounds bad but it eventually became a good thing. My husband and I have been together happily for 31 years.
     
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    I'm biracial, so one-half of my family is in Asia, and because I'm not fluent in the specific language (sorry for being so vague - I'm just kinda scared someone I know will figure out who I am from certain details), I can't really get a good impression of who they are...So it's certainly possible that at least one of my relatives there is LGBT, but I really don't know. And if they were, they would probably (definitely) hide it, because the country is pretty homophobic.

    But! On the American side of my family, my uncle is bisexual (he recently revealed that to the family, and my dad hadn't even known until then!), and I think my aunt said she is as well. My cousin also came out as a lesbian relatively recently, but I think they may be transitioning into a boy, so I'm not sure what they identify as now. (I don't see this cousin more than a few times per year, and we don't really text or anything, so I'm not sure of the details.) It must be in the blood! My parents view my cousin's family as an anomaly (as they think that our family unit is strictly heterosexual since I'm totally closeted), and it's kinda funny...They've got it wrong. I'm one too, haha.
     
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    Yup, my brother is gay.

    A more accurate question would be are there other out LGTBQ+ people in your family. I mean, who knows the number of ancestors we all have who were lesbian/gay/ trans etc but who couldn't face up to telling anyone about it because of the overwhelming force of societal homo/transphobia?

    Beth
     
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    I have a cousin in my family that is mtf. I just recently found out about her because she moved out of state and transitioned and then reconnected with the family many years later. She transitioned a while ago when being transgender was more taboo.
     
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    I thought I was but a cousin of mine recently came out as bi.
     
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    I have a gay uncle on my dads side. Once I knew he was gay I wondered how I hadn’t figured it out myself. I was told by my mother.
     
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    That I know of yes. Part of what makes me hesitant to be out...
     
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    There's no others in my closest family (or even extended family) that I know of, so I voted no.

    I think it's possible that one of my cousins is asexual... but we never talk about dating stuff, and honestly he's never given me any clear evidence either way. I think that's the kind of orientation where someone would really just have to tell me, because I really try not to make too many assumptions about anyone without a very clear reason.
     
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    The only one I know of on my mom's side
     
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    Update : MY COUSIN CAME OUT AS GAY SO PROUD OF HIM DANGGIT!!
     
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    Hell no! It's been suspected my father and youngest brother might be, and for sure one of my cousins and an uncle are
     
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    NOPE. My brother is a trans guy, all three of my cis brothers are bisexual, and my little sis is aro/ace spectrum and questioning non-binary. Also, my uncle is a fabulous gay filmmaker.
     
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    I'm not, my brother is trans and my mom is bi
     
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    Had a grandfather who crossdressed.

    A very distant cousin is gay.

    Maybe some of the others are bi but I don't know. I am the only out queer in my 1st, 2nd, 3rd rung of the family.
     
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    I'm the only one, as far as I know of. Main reason I haven't told my family yet.
     
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    I think I'm the only rainbow sheep in my family (at least my immediate family) as far as I know.
     
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    I have a cousin on my dads side that we have all suspected is a lesbian, but she lives on the other side of the country, in California and we have lost touch with each other. The last time she came to Pennsylvania was in the late 90's. I went to lunch with her and wanted to talk to her about it. I even wanted to come out to her if she was. But alas, my fear crippled me and I never had the conversation.
    I have a cousin on my moms side who's one daughter came out after she got out of high school. She is a good kid, and I enjoy talking to her, but have never opened up to her about my sexuality.
     
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    My brother is gay. I'm lucky to have him, we can relate to both being queer and liking men. We have an opposite taste in men, though When I realized I might not be as straight as I thought, we often talked about things related to sexual orientation. He helped me a lot on my process of figuring myself out.
     
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    Couple aunts and uncles 1 cousin and my mom is gay im the only Bi one.