I'm wondering about the married man that I like. He (kind of) let me know that he was interested in a hook up. When he told me that he was married he volunteered that they were "happy". I'm wondering at his present state of mind. Why, I cannot answer. Do you think some people are happy to have their cake and eat it - domestic bliss whilst occasionally having a physical dalliance. Or do you think that somewhere in their psyche they are struggling being closeted. Maybe he is emotionally shutdown to connecting with a man and is perfectly ok to have a hookup and consign it to the past. Any opinions? Were most closeted married men gradually obliged to move from successful compartmentalization and denial to acceptance that their feelings couldn't be denied. Are some closeted people forever at peace or are they working hard to repress their true nature?