Any transgender or gender fluid people fancy a chat?

Hi, Alice! So very nice to meet you, too!

 

Hi again! I agree with you, I started feeling better as well once I started shaving my legs and underarms. It also helps me wearing "female" deodorant, the vanilla scent (my fave) is very reassuring I guess that I'm ok, and if I'm not ok, at least I don't smell.
I can totally relate to your profile, I wish I could just go dress shopping with no stress, wish I could buy makeup with no stress, wish I could find shoes I like (I'm in western Ontario, the clothing selection overall sucks here, my feet are size 15 women's (men 13). Online shopping is a blessing that way, but I really like going shopping, trying things on, love the mall shopping experience.
I'm very fortunate that my wife (we've been together 24 years) is so understanding, so supportive. She always gives me lingerie, even if just a matching bra and panty set, for Xmas. One outlet I have is shopping for her clothes, without her. I don't mind her going, but prefer when I'm left to browse the shops unaccompanied.

 

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I'm better now that I'm relaxed at home and just being me. I was with my kids today, they had doctors appt, then were home while we started Xmas decorating before I had to make dinner for my wife getting home from work and taking them to basketball, where they are now. I took a shower, shaved my face, legs, etc, put on cute bra and panty set, yoga pants and way oversized hoodie for me (5XL), poured a glass of wine.
She knew I had a terrible day at work yesterday, I work in the most toxic, homophobic, transphobic, misogynistic place imaginable. The homophobic comments number literally in the dozens per hour. But I'm ok, I think, today.
I'm very glad to have found this space, I need an outlet where I can socialize with people who are like me.

 

You've asked me what games so I guess it's my turn. What board games do you enjoy?

 

I know the feeling of liking someone you roleplay with. I actually play DnD a girl that I feel strongly towards. Though she thinks she might be asexual so I'm not about to go confesseing. I've never played as a female pc around her, then again, the school I go to is chalk full of biggots and I don't think the passing croulwd who flows in and out of the spot where my crew plays would be approving of. The only time I've played a female pc with those people was a pregen sorcerer in Pathfinder
That was a fun game to play.

 

Thanks, I am a really nice person! I'll bet you are, too! How long have you been out to your wife? My wife was troubled at first, but accepting (she's bi curious herself, likes gender role reversal in the bedroom but most definitely an ally). She was worried about what it meant for her in terms of our future together, how far do I feel I need to transition to be happy, etc. Over time she has seen how persistent my femininity is, especially when safe to be expressed freely, and is fully supportive. This is over a span of five years now, hopefully for you, time will also strengthen your wife's support of your femininity.

 

My brother's geeky friends moved away before I was old enough to join them for things like X Wing and Risk. Though I fondly playing a 2 year long DnD campaign with them. I'm surprised they put up with a kid for that long. I vaugly remember Zombicide being passed up for Pandemic, so I never got to play it

 

Fondly remember*
Sorry about typos, I'm not very good with catching mistakes.

 

That's really awful to hear that your school is full of bigots. I was sort of hopeful that the generation younger than me today was really moving away from hatred of LGBTQ. I'm well out of my school years, and it's terrible that it still goes on today. When will these bigoted morons finally pull their heads out of each other's asses?! I think homo/transphobia is a more group phenomenon than an individual belief, in many cases. I can't say for sure what each person who has expressed hatred toward me for being me actually believed, it always astounds me: why do they even care?
Sorry, didn't mean to be triggered there, after yesterday at work, and the bullying I was witness to, I'm still pretty angry.
By the way, even if your friend is asexual, there are plenty of ways you can express affinity/ affection toward her outside the context of physical intimacy. Opening up to her about your own hopes and fears, being honest and genuine about who you are, making her laugh, come to mind.

 

It's fine, venting is more than welcome.
I've been trying to make her happy because she falls into a similar situation as me with a less than loving father figure, for me a stepdad and her a boyfriend of her mom. We often spend time away from our nerd group talking and bring each other baked goods. My brother told me something once that has stuck with me for a while "Just cause she don't love you don't mean you ditch her, make the hoe feel happy and loved, be the brother they don't have." He was pretty drunk but those slurred words have really inspired me to support my friends no matter what. It's funny, I find inspiration on the wierdest places. Just last year some homeless guy helped me find the will to keep my life going.

 

Hey I'm Jem!

Haven't been on here for about 2 years and I still don't know how to work everything properly but I like meeting and talking to new people!

 

Well, it sounds like sometimes you can be in a pretty dark place.
Maybe that's why your friend is in your life: everything happens for a reason.
Use her support, find comfort in her friendship, at the very least think of how much you'd be hurting a great friend if you were actually about to hurt yourself or worse. You're as important to the world as anybody else, sometimes the timing of found happiness really sucks, but when you're at your worst, it can only get better, right?

 

Let me quote Alice really quick

I was it to be that simole, but it just isnt.

 

Want* Simple*

 

If only life were as simple, I understand. Matters of the heart are too often heartbreaking, aren't they? It's so much tougher I think, when our support systems are few and often inaccessible. Sounds like you could really use a hug, I can't offer that, but how about a smile and an ear?