I should add that the bi label which at least for many implys fluidity (Which is fine for oneself) is difficulty in terms of relationship.
I think most people are, even if they don't know it. After all, love and sex is all based on emotions, rather than male or female. I was haveing this very same conversation with one of my friends the other day. She has only ever been interested in men but we both agreed that there are a lot more bisexual people around nowadays. I think that as society has become more tollerant towards same sex relationships, people feel more able to act upon their desires. twenty years ago attitudes were a lot different, so people never acted on their impulses as much. This however is dependant on where you are. I live in Oxford, which tends to be a bit more bohemian, if I lived somewhere else, things might be different.
I'm going to have to agree with this one. I still get guy crushes from time to time but I am absolutely certain that I would still be uncomfortable with them in an actual relationship. I think love is an androgynous relationship and it can happen with anyone. Some people are just more comfortable with same-sex or heterosexual relationships.
Well, I'd have to say no. I'm not sexually attracted to anyone. Man chests are nice to look at though.
No everyone is not bi if so everyone would be banging each other. I think more People are more open minded these days. But i did had my fair share of curious guys. Sometimes i do get girl crushes or feel attached to them i don't really think i could do anything sexual with a girl
no, & saying that is a great way to erase asexual ppl. not to mention it also invalidates gay ppl's identities
I agree that a society can only accept ideas that it can assimilate without too Much threat to its structure. In a "bohemian" environment more diversity is assimilated than say in a religious Town in the Midwestern us. This does not really change who people are, But it does have an impact on their public Self definition in terms of labels regarding sex orient. ---------- Post added 24th Feb 2013 at 09:33 AM ---------- Also women work more in part not because of the women's movement, But also because unlike in the 1800s say, a lot of jobs are physically gender neutral; That is to say they involve minimal upper body physical involvement Where men still are more suited than women evolution wise. This physical thing may change as well over generations. Please do not comment with pc stuff without reading this really carefully.
Sorry, I can't resist following-up on this - For those who still don't get this (which doesn't include Eatthechildren): Let’s say you’re in a minority that people are uncomfortable with, and you feel strongly about your identity. You’re proud of what you are. Then, someone comes along and says it’s not really anything different because everybody has a little bit of that. They’ve watered it down to something palatable, less threatening, without the uniqueness and complexity. By supposedly accepting it, they’ve also diminished it. As for the original question: No, but I think many more people have the capacity to be bi than the number who are willing or able to acknowledge it. People are generally not free to develop a sexuality that is outside the few “acceptable” options. If those restrictions weren’t there, the distribution of gay, straight, bi, whatever would be very different. I'm attracted to individuals without much regard to sex or gender. In addition to intellect, personality, and all of that, the sexual energy matters, not the equipment (factory installed or otherwise), although aesthetically, I think women are more attractive. I'm also much more attracted to people who are not what's considered especially feminine or masculine - someone in the middle would be ideal.
I called myself bi for years, and I think that was mainly because I did not want to fully accept who I really was and that is a gay man. By playing the bi card I actually hurt both men and women in the process of trying to function in both worlds. So I go with the spectrum theory, there are people who are exclusively hetro, homo and everything in between.
Well, yes and no. At some pretty fundamental, I think it's true. (In fact, when I told a friend I was bi, she said, "but everybody is bi," to which I replied, "Yes, but I'm VERY bi.") But obviously, it's a matter of degree. That's the basic truth of the Kinsey & Klein scales. We all fall somewhere along the continuum, so at one end or the other, some toward the middle. And a lot of us slide around.
I can't get turned on by women. I simply can't. BUT, I do have these 'unusual crushes' on women though. You can't exactly call it a crush even, but I'm sure gay men will know what I mean. Okay, for instance, I have a 'special kind of crush' on Rooney Mara and Anna Kendrick. I think they are really pretty and I would go to see a movie simply because they are in it. But if both of them are naked in front of me, 10 tablets of viagra will not even be able to help me get an erection. You know what I mean? Same also applies to some of my female friends. There's this girl that I think is especially pretty and I really love her smile, and I love it when she talks. But that's about it. Okay I think i just have an idea for a new thread!
I think there are more people on the 2-5 scale than people are willing to admit, but I certainly don't think everyone is bisexual. And I'll leave it up to the person to decide what they want to call themselves, in the end.
It is very obvious to me from the way most other people behave that they must have some kind of strong preference in one direction. Whether that's biologically programmed or socially constructed is up for debate though.