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Want her to know the real me... but scared to go there

Discussion in 'Coming Out Advice' started by WonderQuest, Dec 16, 2023.

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  1. Jakebusman

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    Dont block it out I tryed that for years and drove me nuts
     
    #21 Jakebusman, Jan 17, 2024
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    I went through something really similar to you as far as trying to tell myself this isn’t real but then it comes back out of nowhere and I get all these fantasies about things I want to do with a guy . I get extremely aroused thinking back to the guy I use to fool around with on the DL in high school. I tried to brush that off as being horny teenage boys but in when I turned 36 all these feelings started coming back. They actually first started in my dreams I was having and in the dreams I was so turned on I actually had wet dreams . That’s when I was like wtf was that . I got really depressed for about a year but finally I’m just accepting my past and my current desires and I just accept that I’m bisexual there isn’t really anything I can do to change that I didn’t choose to be this way but it’s part of my sexual orientation I guess
     
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  3. WonderQuest

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    Yeah, it is actually nice to just accept it and be open to it.
     
    #23 WonderQuest, Jan 17, 2024
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    I hear you. When I realized this is just part of me, it became much easier. When you stop fighting it or ignoring it, you can work towards embracing it.
     
    #24 WonderQuest, Jan 17, 2024
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    Have you ever wanted to act on your Bi feelings ?
     
    #25 Jakebusman, Jan 17, 2024
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    Of course! More so when I was younger and single. At this stage of life, I'm happy in my relationship so I don't feel the need to act on it. I am more interested in being honest with myself and not hiding who I am.
     
    #26 WonderQuest, Jan 18, 2024
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    that was the hardest part for me was being honest and accepting myself
     
    #27 Jakebusman, Jan 18, 2024
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    I hear ya WonderQuest, we are in a great relationship and don’t want to push boundaries too much for fear of wrecking it all. I myself want to be with men again but that is down the road after wife and I talk about it and if she is comfortable with that.
     
    #28 Lance M, Feb 14, 2024
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    I am married to my wife of 13 years still happily married but yet still wanting to explore my bi side/feelings
     
    #29 Jakebusman, Feb 18, 2024
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