I did it!

(*hug*) (*hug*) (*hug*)

You're being ever so brave about all this, and you're doing exactly the right thing ^_^

It's really good that your mum's on your side about this, and that you're both strong enough to just ignore it. I hope something falls on his head at some point to make him realise just what he's saying to his own son =/.

 

Good on ya mate.! Very strong stuff. Give it all time.

 

We're glad to see you back Martin! And well done for coping so well with all this, i would have lost the plot by now, so go you, you should be very proud of yourself!

i think your mum sounds really cool, and supportive, and thats brilliant, you have someone there to be on your side when you need them to be. In the end, all i can say is that, as long as you are happy, and comfortable with your sexuality, then that's the main thing, i know your parent's and their opinions, but it is you that is going to live your life, and if you choose to live it as a Gay man, then that is entirely your choice.

Well done, and our thoughts are still with you, and we are all here when you need us.
For anything. At all.

Marie x x

 

It sounds like your dealing with this in the right way! think your dads confusion about what it is to be gay is clouding his judgments on the fact your still his son. His stereotypical comments on being gay just show how little he knows. Hang in there mate! (*hug*)

 

Aww, Martin. You poor little ghey. I think you maybe need your rainbow re-inflating right now, do you? Well, I have an enormous marsh-mallow cushion in rainbows which I'm sending you telepathically right now. Remember that no matter what your Dad says, you can be happy as yourself, you will be happy, and you deserve to be happy. He'll come round - and if he doesn't, all of us fellow pedophiles and "unhappy outcasts" will come round and bonk him on the head with our rainbows until he sees sense. Sound good? (&&&) I'm sure that things can only get better, however slow that may be.

 

Time heals all....


It just the shock, my dad said the same things (but more calmly).

Now he's used to the idea.
He's just worried how the world will react to you and your 'feelings'
Its just concern for your well being in the long run.

Itll get better

 

Just give your father some more time, he'll get over this eventually. It's gonig to be difficult for him to get past his prejudice towards gay people, but sooner or later he'll realize that you're his son, and you should matter more to him than anything in the world. Good luck Martin.

 

It's certainly a rough situation, but you seem to be handling it very well. Much better than your father is. Stay as strong as you are now and don't try to mold yourself to maintain his reputation.

This is where a long line of hug smilies would go.

 

Well done, stay calm - just hang in there, hold your ground and let him be the one to make an idiot of himself.

Oh - and more of these (*hug*)(*hug*)(*hug*)

 

*checks closet wardrobe*
Hmm nope, no pink.
Last time i checked my voice resembled a fog horn and my wrist were quite erect actually.
Please pass this breaking news on to your father.

Best. Visual. Ever.

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So sorry to hear things went sour with your dad. Or should i say im sorry your dad has a problem he desperately needs to resolve.
As you so rightfully put, it's his problem, not yours.

On the other hand i am elated to hear your mother came to your defense. Although its only what any sensible parent would do; it would seem sensibility is in short supply these days.

Focus all your energies on your mother, your dad will work through his issues in his own time. Remember the stages. It will be awhile, but he will soon come to realize that rejecting you as he did means losing the affection his family. (*hug*)

(&&&)

PS: I want to give you a biiiig hug!

 

Oh dear, Martin. That is really not the response I was hoping to read. I really am sorry that things turned this way, but I can only envision them getting better. As a few others had indicated, I think that his message is clear (that he cares about you and your happiness), but where I think he is lacking is in his delivery. I don't think he is portraying the message as he intends... in fact, many such fears about my own father have prompted me to remain in the closet with him for the short-term future. I really applaud you for your response, it sounds as if you know who you are, and more importantly, are proud of who you are.

I am proud of you, Martin, and I understand that I run the risk of sounding odd by saying this, but you are actually inspiring me with the courage you have shown. I made this posting because I want you to know that I am behind you, but also as a short thank you for sharing your experience.

All of the best Martin, you will be in my thoughts for another day tomorrow, as you have been for the past week or so. Like many folks on here, I am here if you need someone to chat with.

 

I say talk to beckyg about what type of materials you might need to show him about the subject. Sorry that he is not taking it very good! Hope everything gets better!(*hug*)(*hug*)(*hug*)(*hug*)(*hug*)

 

(*hug*)(*hug*)(*hug*) You can never have too many hugs. I really hope he comes to his senses in time. Just remember that you're wonderful, and that every one of us is right behind you.

 

Hey Martin, it's good to see you're hanging in there! I hope your dad realises that it doesn't matter real soon now, and that you're still the same son he's always known.

And, I can't forget this: (&&&)

 

I'm really sorry to hear this Martin. I had hoped that things would get better, and I still hope they do, but I was really sorry to hear this (*hug*). I'm glad you have your mum's support at least, and I hope that one day your dad comes to accept it and that things over the next few weeks don't explode too much (*hug*).

 

awwwww I'm sorry Martin... hugs from CA