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You know you're in denial about being lgbt when....

Discussion in 'Chit Chat' started by Silveroot, Nov 13, 2018.

  1. weary

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    I didn't read through all the answers so this may have been said...

    When you realize the reason you dated the men you did was because you thought their exes were sexy..

    When you fight harder than your spouse to get their ex to come around because you just want to see her, yet you are still in denial.
     
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    You regularly whack it to gay porn but tell yourself you’re just questioning/curious.
     
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    This was meeee lol. Also I made a fake ###### profile to swipe on girls to see what it would be like in the name of “curiosity”.
     
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    When boys love stories seem more romantic than straight love stories.
    When you like boobs more than abs but say that you like them only because you have them ( you can relate and have more aesthetics )


    When you wish that your friend was of opposite gender so that you are marry them. ( this was actually something my friend told me, she knows I am bi )
     
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    ...You find yourself watching a load of skits on YouTube from various creators you follow about being gay, but you're not gay, since they're not gay... they just joke about being gay all the time to make a point about how straight they are, constantly saying no homo and...never mind they just came out.

    Same.
     
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    You watch gay porn but still maintain you're straight.
     
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    This one just occurred to me today. But I found out today I like significantly shorter men than average. I don't think this actually has much to do with anything because all people can be tall, but I have found though I like tall men in the abstract, in real life I don't find someone who is a lot taller than me attractive. I'm not a tall girl either, so there is also that to consider, (I'm 5' 4"). But interestingly, even though I used to think I liked a guy to be about 5" 10" or thereabouts, in reality, my ideal height is either around only an inch or two taller than me, right at my height, or shorter than me by a few inches. Basically the heights I actually feel natural with are actually much closer to the height of an average woman than a man.
    I am finding a like a lot of things about men in the abstract to be pleasing but less so if I actually think about it. A lot of what I like in a man is highly driven by fantasy.
     
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    When you exprement with a friend in middle school and put it off for years only coming to realize that you like both boys and girls
     
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    You think you're a cis male, but you wanted to take women's studies instead of computer science.

    When it takes 10 years to realize you're trans.
     
  10. Silveroot

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    I haven't had this happen to me personally. I believe I was dating men to prove everyone else and to myself that I am straight, but somehow it didn't work.
     
  11. Silveroot

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    Yeah and in the meantime straight porn or anything involving the opposite sex is somehow not as interesting or does nothing and you keep thinking you will probably figure a way around it. Maybe some day.
     
  12. Silveroot

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    Like, all straight girls do that for fun. Seriously though, when your brain is all gleeful about it and won't stop thinking about it, it's a pretty certain sign there's more to it than curiosity.
     
  13. Silveroot

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    I can relate with the boobs thing. Actually with my first male lover I had this very weird thing happen, I was sad he didn't have...boobs. And it made no sense logically, because I shouldn't expect this from him as a man and I had no one to compare with to be as disappointed. And still for a long time after we broke up I thought I must still be into men...Only later I connected the dots.
     
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    And you might even watch gay youtubers in secret and still believe your obsession is a very strong curiosity...
     
  15. Silveroot

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    Fantasies and reality can be miles apart. I mean I have imagined men in sexual scenarios and found that sometimes I could like it. Reality is waaay different though.
     
  16. Silveroot

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    That must be an interesting experience.

    Well it took me more than 15 years to realize I'm gay so I can sympathize. Living in an unaccepting area can make the process a lot harder than it has to be.
     
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    When you're a fan of Xena: Warrior Princess and your family think you're a little pervert staring at all the boobies on display, but you actually really just enjoy watching the show because of the story lines and fight scenes. Also, the rare scenes of men taking off their shirts become your secret gay porn stash (this was me in my teen years)
     
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    Lol, I found the tests quite unhelpful. If I did the things they asked about, like wanting to marry a girl, I would have figured out myself. Same goes for trans tests. If I had short hair and used male toilets, it would mean I know I’m trans. They mosty ask how you act, not how you feel.
     
  19. Silveroot

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    I liked watching Xena but at some point I started finding her role scarier than sexier. However with her being one of the few women with good fighting skills who needed no man to save her, I did find her role as something I could identify with.

    I can't say the same about the roles women took in most other movies, they always needed a man to save them and they fell in love with him madly in the end. Not only could I not relate to their feelings about these fictional men, I think these endings made me jealous too lol. I mean I could do the same with that guy or do better and anyway, they should kiss me instead.

    Back then all these emotional workings were too complicated for me to understand, so I reasoned I felt this way because the movie/plot or romance in general was stupid xD
     
  20. Silveroot

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    Agreed, they weren't quite helpful for me either. As a femme in denial, I usually rated as straight or bisexual.