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You know you're in denial about being lgbt when....

Discussion in 'Chit Chat' started by Silveroot, Nov 13, 2018.

  1. Silveroot

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    Ok, I know this might have been done before, but I'm curious about what people will have to say.

    I'll start, this used to apply to me.

    You know you're in denial when you are in close proximity of someone of the same sex undressing and turn around, trying not to look but wanting to lol
     
  2. Love4Ever

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    This is a great thread!
    You know you're queer when...
    You love the smell of vagina and can't understand why anyone would not find it appealing. *Blushes*
    That you end up staring at women's butts when leggings are involved.
    You are at the waterpark and think all the girls in bikinis look so good.
    You're into male/male erotica/media (A lot of women who are queer seem to like this stuff too?)
     
  3. Silveroot

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    There's no thumbs up, there's no thumbs up...lol

    Or you know just look at women's butts and thing it's fact they have more interesting butts than men do.

    I thought I'd die from embarrassment when near half-naked girls. Nope, could not face myself.

    M2m erotica to me seems a little more...honest and less fake somehow. I used to look it up but after I let myself be gayer, my desire for male erotic content has somehow faded.

    Ok, I forgot to add this one. You know you're in denial when you don't even hold hands with other girls in case you seem like a gay couple. Even though it's a thing among hetero friends too. I was like that in high school, soo deep in that closet that I thought I was in a parallel universe. xD
     
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    That's interesting about the last one. Ever since I found out I was attracted to women I have wanted to hold hands with any woman, even a friend, and HOPE people think were a gay couple?!
     
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    When you hang a naked woman picture in your room and think it's the artwork that you like.
    When your eyes fixate on someone's body and you attribute it to "evolution meant it to attract attention".
    When you get aroused about it and you think you're just so horny that you'd get aroused at the sight of a tree.
    When you feel inclined to come closer and cuddle and still think it's aesthetic.
    When you just want to be with someone all the time and say it's not love, because you don't imagine marrying them. Even though you just happy when they ar around and miss them when they aren't.

    Now someone else than me: I know a guy who passionately touches other guys' chests, he does that because he clearly finds it pleasureable, and says there is nothing sexual about it.
     
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    I remember it took me forever to shower and get out of the girls locker room.... I'd just sit there and and and and...
     
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    "I'm not transgender, but quit calling me a woman and stop pushing those dated stereotypes on me"
    "I'm not transgender, I'm just a man on the inside" - pretty lol but I said that xD

    "I don't identify as a gender, but what is the name for it if I want to tell others that I'm the same thing as men are... I'd prefer if this thing I don't know the name of had social significance and classified people, not what you have betwen the legs"
     
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    You're in denial when...
    You look at inane things on women like eyebrows and fall in love :see_no_evil:

    You find men to be overall quite uninteresting

    You secretly check out soccer moms getting in their cars
     
  9. Silveroot

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    Well, it's art y'know.

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  10. Silveroot

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    And shower of course, what else?! Just in slow-motion, in an entranced state I guess.
     
  11. Silveroot

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    So true I can relate about these random details xD It's quite funny when you're in the closet and a male with a killer body doesn't even get half-of the attention your friend gets.

    Oh dear, I have such an embarrassing story about a mom I hugged once. She wasn't wearing a bra from the inside and I felt everything on me. I must have been blushing all way home thinking about it. How straight of me. xD
     
  12. Silveroot

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    Haha! The things we tell ourselves...

    The most lol thing I remember right now is something I told myself was when I was watching some girls undress on tv, you know the kind of programs tv has sometimes. Anyway, I was watching completely in a trance with mouth gaping too most probably. I was fairly certain of my straightness, but in order to make any lingering worry go away, I went: "I'm glad I'm watching this, this should be great as practice to seduce my future husband". Like I was totally watching it to copy the moves xD And I believed it for some time.
     
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    Lol That's hilarious. I actually did the exact opposite. I avoided anything where females did anything sexy, wore sexy clothes etc. I was even embarrassed to walk through a Victoria's Secret because of all the bras. I hid my sexuality from myself because I never put myself in situations where I could be around women doing things that were sexy. Which is why for years I didn't know I wasn't straight. A lot of this stemmed from my own complicated relationship with my body, feminine clothes, and the like. I also hated the idea of being sexualized myself as a woman, which is different I think in men who like women, because this sense of knowing that not only are other women frequently sexualized, but that other people do it to YOU as well, can be something that some people are very uncomfortable with. I didn't want that so I avoided these things because I didn't like what I felt they said about ME potentially as well. Because being femme in the ways these women were femme was never something I identified with. So yeah, I was pretty messed up there. I felt like less of a woman because I didn't identify as having things in common with femininity as society saw it, and thus felt I had nothing in common with these women and therefore was not capable of having feelings for them.
     
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    Kind of similar in a way, but for my career, I had to do alot of feminine things, even though I didn't really care to. Not adverse to it, just moreso a hassle lol.

    I think my denial was very subtle and nothing too interesting, just the always justifying it in my mind. Like I only watch lesbian or solo female porn and always remember telling myself, articles have said straight women do that too, so that doesn't mean anything. Never attracted to any guy, ever lol, but remember that straight adage, you just haven't met the right guy yet, even though who knows how many crushes or feelings I had for women/girls by then. So, I think standard things that could be chalked up to, it's normal for straight girls to do, etc. But everything kept adding up too much over time and I got more confident with knowing I am a lesbian, it just slowly fit more into place.
     
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    OMG I did that exact same thing!!!!!! I was actually kind of a butch child when I was growing up, which is weird because I'm very much on the femme side now. Around the time I started middle school, people around me started thinking I was a lesbian. I was so ashamed that I began to present myself as excessively girly as possible, which I thought would make me straight. I still liked looking at girls though, so my justification for looking at women like that was that I was trying to see what I needed to do to make myself appealing, therefore, successfully feminine, to guys. I thought my attraction to women, even though I didn't see it that way at the time, gave me an advantage over other girls because I knew what I needed to do to make a straight man be attracted to me. It's one of the reasons why I struggle so much in deciding if I find myself looking at a girl because I like her, or if it's because I just want to be her.
     
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    Nah I was aware that I have some level of sexual attraction to women from the beginning or at least since puberty started for real. I recognised it as sexual attraction. But I attributed it to being horny af. But the less obvious forms of it flew under my radar - forms that didn’t involve wanting to touch etc or physical response.

    I thought exactly the same. Telepathy? :O


    Lol yeah
     
  17. Silveroot

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    Don't think that I didn't try to avoid that as well, it was the next thing I tried so as to forget my attractions and focus on men. It didn't work though.
     
  18. Silveroot

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    I followed a similar process as well. I thought I didn't care about guys because I hadn't met the right ones for me. As for lesbian porn I imagined it was every girl's secret kink. I didn't connect the dots until years later, when other things became clear as well.
     
  19. Silveroot

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    I understand. I presented femme as a copying mechanism and to make people accept me. Otherwise I didn't care much about dolling myself up. It's not something I'm totally opposed to, I mean I'm now used of presenting a bit feminine, but not too feminine, like in dresses and heels.

    I kind of suspected I liked other girls, but I thought it would go away and that every girl has gone through it just won't admit it. I was also convinced that if I focused on guys and tried enough I'd like someone that way eventually. I also had celebrity crushes so they made me feel secure about my heterosexuality. 'I can't be gay, I like that singer'.
     
  20. Silveroot

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    It's the gay hive mind.