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Would You Remarry If Your Partner Died?

Discussion in 'Chit Chat' started by JStevens96, Jun 22, 2014.

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Would You Remarry If Your Partner Died?

Poll closed Jun 28, 2014.
  1. Yes

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    21.5%
  2. No

    12 vote(s)
    18.5%
  3. I Don't Know

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    60.0%
  1. Acm

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    It sounds pretty hard, so I probably wouldn't unless I met someone really special.
     
  2. Jonathan

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    It would all depend on how well I heal from losing my significant other and if I met someone that I connected with.
     
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    I might, yes. But it depends. Of course, I would want my partner to be able to find another source of happiness and love if I'm no longer there for her, and I wouldn't want to marry someone who didn't wish the same for me. It might take a while, but I'm sure once the grieving process ended I'd let myself be open to the prospect of someone new. But only if I connected with them on the same level that I had with my first partner.
     
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    I don't know it depends on when I retaliate
     
  5. JStevens96

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    Yup.. Very hard thing to think about.
     
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    Well if they were dieing and told me to move on and be happy than I would but not right away I think I would be alone for at least a year and if they told me to wait than I would let's say they died unexpectedly I don't know I think it would all depend on the time we were together and how are relationship was but good question I like this thread
     
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    I am being dead honest here. If my partner died, I would not only never marry again, I'd probably never date again

    I don't care for dating or marriage altogether. I just happened to find the one and only partner I'd ever consider being with. I don't feel it is betrayal whatsoever to date or marry again as a widow/widower. Not one bit

    I just really REALLY like my alone time...and no it isn't a deficiency...just who I am

    guess I got lucky
     
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    I honestly don't know. It's too much to even consider.
     
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    What are they going to do about it?
     
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    It's difficult for me to find someone else when the person who you have been with and emotionally,physically and mentally invested with disappears anytime. What's even weird is that if it were me who would die first, I would let my partner remarry or meet someone else because I do think he deserves happiness.
     
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    It's definitely between:

    And:

    I was never terribly close with my grandfather, but he has told me two things that, to this day, I believe are tidbits of wisdom:

    One, "You spend money on what makes you money".

    Two, something along the lines of, 'Your grandmother is going to be sad when I die, but she will bounce back. She'll try to live as happily and as courageously, as if I were still here, because I don't want to leave this world, knowing her tears will never stop.'

    He's since passed away, and my grandmother, after a period of time, remarried. She appears happy with her new husband.
     
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    Yes, just as I would want a partner of mine to remarry if they found the right person. The fact of the matter is, once someone dies, life goes on for the rest of us. Remarrying in no way invalidates the love and connection with your late spouse, and most people who die, would want their remaining loved one to be happy. Plus, if it was me, I would want my partner to be happy and after I died, I would cease to exist anyway so it would be completely inconsequential to me.

    I think as long as they remarry for the right reasons and not just as a rebound or because they are lonely (as this would likely result in a poor choice of partner), then going on with your life and being as happy as you can be is the right thing to do.

    Happy days :slight_smile:
     
  15. JStevens96

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    Well, I mean, out of respect or anything like that. If you believe in that, that is
     
  16. Z3ni

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    If I find someone then yes, but I wouldn't say they would be a replacement though.

    ---------- Post added 23rd Jun 2014 at 03:45 PM ----------

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    I answered yes. Because I think it would be possible if you found someone you love like your first spouse. I have had many people in my family remarry after their husband/wife passed and it seemed to help them a great bit. I just think you need to know what you want and find someone who you really love.
     
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    I may see someone, but remarry - never.
     
  19. JStevens96

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    I don't think I'd be able to either
     
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    Personally I don't think I'd be able to move on or find a bond with someone else in the way my partner and I do....it wouldn't be the same.