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What do your parents think about you ?

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  1. SomeAverageBoy

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    I only came out to one of my parents and they think that my bisexuality is just a phase or that I only like girls
    My other parent seems to be more open minded regarding LGBT people though I haven't told them yet :/
     
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    They don't really think anything. It's normal for them.
     
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    It's normal for them ? In what way ?
     
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    LGBT is normal to them, especially for my Mom (My Dad may have had some ignorance on how things went, but certainly never homophobia...he had gay nephews after all). Mom was an LGBT ally before I ever knew I was part of the community. I was more homophobic than she was when I was a preteen and I would get grounded if I said anything negative to LGBT folks.
     
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    You must be lucky to have a mother like that. The parent whom I came out to isn't really homophobic but they pity LGBT individuals
     
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    My parents discovered I was into the opposite sex long before I even knew what it meant. I spent the first 16 years of my life under constant berating as my father worked diligently to shame and humiliate me into "choosing" to be straight. He encouraged the other members of my family (aunts, uncles, cousins, etc) to do the same, which they did.

    My mother did not participate. I assumed this meant acceptance.

    At 16, I legally emancipated from my parents, and kept my distance unless a family obligation required my attendance.

    After my father passed a few years ago, I discovered that my mother's lack of participation wasn't acceptance after all. She simply didn't agree with the emotional abuse. I have since then learned that she is not happy with my orientation, and is occasionally vocal about it when she drinks, but otherwise keeps her peace about it in her discussions with me, no matter how she feels about it.
     
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    Being bi? Moms totaly cool with it.

    Wearing leggings and girls panties? Bothers her a bit, but she loves me all the same like any mom should.

    Father doesn't matter as i dont involve him in my personal affairs at all really
     
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    My mother is mostly accepting but I think she's partially in denial telling me not to tell anyone I'm a lesbian and also telling me the fact I'm a lesbian is just a tiny part of who I am. My dad is racist and homophobic. If I told him I would probably get more verbal abuse than I already get. My dad has a gay brother but never mentions his brothers sexuality.
     
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    My mom actually teases me (in a nice way, don't worry) about being gay, like we'd pass a sweaty boy who suddenly burps and she says "I don't know how you're not attracted to that" and I just kinda love her for that

    My stepdad knows already even though I haven't told him. But I didn't confirm his suspicions either? At least he's okay with it, I guess

    Dad could care less, as long as I'm a morally sound person & not hurt

    Stepmom has no problem with gay people, not sure how she'd react if one of them was in her family..

    I know my situation is better than most and hope you guys with less acceptance can find good people to surround yourself with! :slight_smile:
     
  10. mlm1234

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    my parents hate me and friends
     
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    My parents don't know I like girls.
     
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    mine literally said they hated me for what i did to them and would never accpet it, but can still live here. they dont see me as a son really, they that im a fab queen. my friends invited me to pub when i told them only to verbally abuse me and spit in my drink, at end of night they pored one over my head, hair and make. lucky a guy helped me out and confront them and became an old bf, super buff guy, could of crushed them. now i got new friends but still living at home. only 2 of old friend didnt care.
     
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    I'm so sorry for what you're going through. But a good thing is that some of your friends didn't care.
    I hope it gets better for you.
     
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    dad died when I was only 12
    mom died in 2013 Feb 5

    mom put up with me being the way I was
    but was trying to manipulate me someone or get her way

    no matter if I was with a guy or a girl

    my mom did not like my first two wives and never met the third one.

    I think she would love my current wife.
     
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    how does yours parents feel or friends. is it visible there disapproval
     
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    First mom though I'm a dissapointment but luckily it got better after time and therapy session. She still kinda has a problem with accepting it tho. That goes for me being transgender. Wonder how she react when she finds out I'm bi (she tries not to think about my sexuality). And my dad has no idea about anything, I think he wouldn't be very happy.
     
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    Sorry but I don't exactly understand what you're saying.
     
  18. mlm1234

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    sorry i meant how doest your parent feel about your sexuality, you said is they dont like it, is they dislike visible, do they express there dislike, do ur friends have the same reaction towards ur sexuality.
     
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    My parents aren't too happy with me being gender fluid. They treat me the same way they did before. But they don't like calling me by "he/him" when I want to go by those, but they're fine with hearing other people say it about me. And the only way I can wear "boy clothes" is if I buy them. A couple of my friends know, and they are really supportive about it.
     
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    My parents are fine with it. My dad was disappointed when I first came out but he's okay now. My moms side of the family I think is okay with it since their pretty liberal on social issues. My dads side of the family I can't tell honestly. I think they are okay with it but sometimes I have my doubts. I think it's one of those things that they're okay with if its not in the family. But idk they haven't said anything about it so I really don't know.