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Was the first person you dated of the same or opposite sex?

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    Same sex. We watched a movie in the theatre and during that time it seemed that we had a mutual understanding, liking each other but not verbalizing it. No questions what we were doing. We almost kissed but stopped myself and told her not to allow me to do that. After some time though, my family moved to a different place and I didnt see her again until so many years later. I actually almost have forgotten about that part of my life.
     
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    Opposite sex, but the first sexual contact I had was same sex
     
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    Opposite sex. I didn't come out til my mid-twenties so before that I had only dated guys. I wish I had come out earlier cause I feel like I wasted a big part of my life trying to convince myself I was attracted to the opposite sex.
     
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    I've never had even one single date. If I were to ever have a date, it would almost certainly be a same sex date. I only say "almost certainly" just because one never knows--but I'd guess the chances of me dating a woman are less than the chances of me winning the lottery.

    Had I done in any dating when I was in high school in the 80s, it would have had to have been a girl. Those were my strongest denial years, plus back then boys did not openly date other boys.
     
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    It depends what is meant by "dated". The first person I properly kissed was an opposite sex "girlfriend" but it was when I was about 9 so I don't know if that would count, even though we were "going out" it wasn't really going out because neither of us knew what that meant.

    The first person I dated properly ie, sexually was a guy when I was 17 for a couple of months. My first actual relationship was with a girl though about a year later than that.
     
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    Opposite. I had a typical Christian COURTING relationship with a very nice cishet Christian boy. I liked him, too. It didn’t work out.
     
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    Opposite sex, I've only had one real relationship and it hardly qualifies as one.
     
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    Opposite sex. Seven girlfriends before my one boyfriend. The denial was pretty strong I guess.
     
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    Opposite sex.

    Two relationships spanning nearly 12 years in total...there are days where I regret not acknowledging who I was earlier in life, but there are also days where I accept it and tell myself that I learnt a lot.
     
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    The first person I dated was a girl before I realized more about myself. I am currently dating a guy and I'm happy.
     
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    The first person I ever dated, turned out to be genderfluid
     
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    Opposite (guy), but I wish it was a girl.
     
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    If we’re talking actual biological sex, then I’ve only ever had a same-sex relationship but she is the opposite gender to me lol.
     
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    The first person I ever dated was of the same sex. I was lucky that I didn’t have to go through the experimental opposite sex phase lol
     
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    Opposite sex, but I wish it hadn’t been. I wasted almost five years of my life on this person. I wasted my early twenties on this person, when I could have had a more fulfilling relationship with someone that I’m actually attracted to and that I could actually form a connection with. It makes me a little mad to think about it because I wonder if I would be with an amazing person right now, had I not spend my time with my doomed first relationship.
     
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    The opposite sex when I was in high school, and I broke up with him after a week because I couldn't stand it when he touched me..
     
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    Opposite sex in high school. I was 16 and I had no idea what to do beside not wanting to do anything. I was dating because it was "expected". I didn't want to and I sure as hell didn't want to touch a girl (other than a handshake). I didn't understand completely how I was different at that time but I knew what homosexual meant and I had realized that meant me. I just hadn't come to know all it meant yet and was terrified of being different. I had heard a kid called a faggot once and the thought of being called that was a great fear. Two years later I was in love with my first boyfriend. It really was an emotional/physical/intellectual bonding, the only one I've ever had.
    ....David :gay_pride_flag: