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Was the first person you dated of the same or opposite sex?

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  1. amylase

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    jumping on the bandwagon lol, my current gf is the first person i've dated
     
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    I guess that depends what you consider dating.

    Technically? Opposite sex, with a girl in 5th grade who asked me out... but that was pretty much just a little kid "let's say we're dating even though we do absolutely nothing together!" type of a relationship. Never went anywhere outside school together, and the most physical it ever got was that she hugged me once on the last day of school.

    In reality, same-sex with my current boyfriend.

    Interestingly, I recently found out through Facebook that the girl from 5th grade is a Lesbian now too. It makes me wonder if we both somehow subconsciously realized we weren't straight and found another non-straight person to "date" all those years ago.
     
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    I've personally only ever dated people of the opposite sex.
     
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    I *kind of dated* a guy when I was 14 before I started questioning but I don't really count that. My first relevant relationship is my current relationship with my girlfriend, so same sex.
     
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    Opposite-sex. I came out to close friends pretty early on, as I didn't receive a lot of messages (positive or negative) about other sexualities, but it also hadn't really occurred to me around 15-16 when I started dating that I could seriously date other women. That is, until I met her. :flushed:
     
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    Opposite for dating. But for the first time going all the way was same.
     
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    Hi, I'm new here, but, my first crush was a girl. I've just recently started being gay. My current bf is Jason Gidhing
     
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    The first person I've dated was of the opposite sex. I was 14 years old and it lasted for 9 months.. :slight_smile:
     
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    First person I psudo dated was a girl, and I was identifying as a boy at the time so I guess that is sort of "opposite-sex"... but it was over the phone (early 90s, before everyone had the internet).

    My only sexual experiences were with guys, still iding as "boy" at the time so I guess same

    My first real dating experience with someone was a mostly male but somewhat NB presentingish dragqueen so gender-wise technically we kinda match up as same gender-ish...
     
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    My first dating experience was with the opposite sex. I'm female, and I had a boyfriend for about 6 months at the end of high school. Neither of us got a lot out of it, and we both sort of knew that we were just doing it for the experience (and to placate our parents). We only ever went as far as kissing, although he wanted more.

    After that, I dated no one for several years while accepting that I was possibly asexual/probably gay/most likely some combination of the two. It wasn't until grad school that I started going on dates with girls, and even then I probably can only claim to have "dated" one girl.
     
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    it was my best friend. this whole thing happened before i even came out, so, like, i don't even know what to count that as . my best friend's a female and i am FtM, so technically she was the first person i dated of the same biological sex and the first person of the opposite gender? i guess that's the best way to put it? and it didn't work out, like, at all. at first i was happy and stuff, i guess, but there was always something that was off. i liked being around her, but i never really wanted to do couple-y stuff like kissing, cuddling, etc. and then i figured it out . i wasn't attracted to girls! i was just vvvv confused about my sexuality and identity and she was a dear friend that i was extremely close with. i stopped talking to her for like a year and now we're friends again! so, i guess, it's all good now?
     
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    I've had flings with both men and women, but only ever dated men. My first dating experience was with a transguy, but was both awkward and short lived. Now though I'm dating a lovely gay guy and that is going great.
     
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    Same sex. This is my first relationship too and with a close friend to boot. :grin:
     
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    opposite, and then I realised my love for her was only platonic.
    it was long ago, though, and thankfully I almost forgot everything.
     
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    I have dated two guys, both were “bad”. One of them cheated on me, and the other broke up with me over text while we were in the same room. I don’t know if I want to date anyone in a while
     
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    The first person I "seriously" dated was a man, but that was following a hardcore crush on a girl. My mother found notes between the girl and I ... and freaked out. She handed them over to a therapist - saying that something was wrong. Little did she know - the therapist was a gay man who told me that it'd be healthiest to live my life despite my mother. He was very inspirational, but I was still scared. I came out as bisexual to my first serious boyfriend - and that did not go well. So, that is why I have struggled some.
     
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    Same sex. Never have dated anyone of the opposite sex (at least not in a way that would count...)
     
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    Same sex. I was twelve then. I remained his doll till my mid teens. He wanted to continue but because of the conflict within that I should conform to the straight man role, I refused many times his request to go into bed with him. Many men did show deep interest in me afterwards but my fear kept my off. Now that I have honestly come out to myself I realize and accept that MTF is my real gender. I feel sorry for being rude to my first lover and leaving him.... I wish I had continued the relationship.
     
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    so I can, in fact, say exactly the same. that first person didn't really count, my first serious relationship was with a man.
     
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    Technically opposite, but we were pressured to go out so he doesn’t really count.
    My first REAL Relationship was same sex though.