Things you were afraid to do (before you came out) for fear of 'looking gay'?

I don't dress any certain way to hide myself, but I also try not to appear too boyish around my family. I'll wear man shorts to bed, butchy clothes to mow my catholic grandmother's lawn (just as a f--- you thing) but I really can't talk about LGBT subjects around my family in general. That's what I wish I didn't have to hide.

 

Be more outgoing, show my emotions. Give my honest opinion. Come out of my shell more often. Be myself.

 

I was scared of admitting i liked musicals and GLEE, I was scared to shop for clothes and pretended i hated shopping except for when it came to shoes and I said i hated most lady gaga and pop music

 

I was pretty scared of saying that I trim some of my body hair and scared to complement guys.

 

I couldn't (and still can't, really) wear the clothes that I want to, and I have to shave my legs because otherwise my mother would come after me and shame me into shaving again. I was also afraid of giving my opinion on specific subjects, bringing up the LGBT community in discussion, and sharing my feelings/emotions. Giving compliments to other girls and telling them that they looked attractive or nice was another hard prospect when I wasn't out to them.

 

Before I came out to myself, I was mainly afraid to be myself. To approach girls (as a friend), to look at people, to look anyone in the eye, to move around much in case something I do gives me away. When I'm out in public, I still try to move as little as possible so I wouldn't draw attention to myself, which probably does the exact opposite of what I'm aiming to do but I can't help it. I'm scared.

 

I feel ya. I wear guys' clothes a lot, but I'm afraid to wear them to places where I know I'll see my biological family. My sister always points out every time I wear guys' pants or when she sees my boxers peeking out of the back of my pants or something like that. She drives me crazy with that. I wish she'd stop. They're just fucking clothes! What does it even matter?!

I dunno. But I definitely know how you feel.

 

This is me right there... Also not looking at girls too long, like I look and then I look away because I'm afraid they'll notice, and they're probabbly straight. And then I think, "I'm sure straight guys don't feel like this when looking at women", and I feel a bit sad inside.

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So you did end up getting one Maybe I should get one too

 

Oh yes me too! The type of music I listen to most guys see as girly.

 

Love your bracelet. Maybe I ought to do that.

I used to be afraid to wear anything pink or purple. Doing that more now.

 

I was afraid to cut my hair or wear more androgynous clothes and actually went through a super girly phase that abruptly ended promptly after I came out. People probably think I'm trying to fit the stereotype by looking like this but it's honestly what I've always liked. I was just never comfortable enough with myself to actually wear anything though because I was still trying to attract boys in hopes that I would in turn be attracted back.

I also embrace all things rainbow which I used to be so against.

And not sure if it is because of coming out, but I am finally comfortable enough with my body to not wear a bra or worry about my itty bitty titties anymore :eusa_danc

 

I bought one today This is what it looks like:



I haven't really worn it in front of people properly yet, I've kept it covered. But I'm sure i'll get there

 

I, actually, did almost everything to look gay, so that people wouldn't be surprised when I came out That includes: cutting my hair really short (but I've always had short hair, so I don't know if this counts), wearing lots of shirts and bow-ties, wearing rainbow stuff, listening to gay artists etc.

 

There were MANY things I liked but didn't do/buy because of what others would think about me.
1. I never cut my hair shorter than my shoulders in high school (afraid that people would call me a butch lesbian).
2. I always verbalized my liking of guys clothes to my friends, and bought a few that were gender neutral looking, but never went all out.
Those being a few.
But there were also many things I did just to fit in with my friends...letting my friend paint my nails, forcing myself to give an opinion when my friends wanted me to go shopping with them and would ask what I thought looked good on them.
The latter got harder and harder to do until I was finally like, "I don't give a damn what you wear. If you like it, buy it because I just don't know what you want me to say!"

 

I think my biggest thing is to be able to dress as I feel (not as a man of my "age" (53) is supposed to dress). I like to wear skinny jeans, tight shirts and clothing probably more suited for young guys. I have the figure to wear it ;-), but not the head (think Mick Jagger, but without the millions ;-). I don't care. Don't get me wrong. I do like a classy suit now and then, as they make me look good (too). I don't do specific "gay" things or wear rainbow shirts etc. I don't like to advertise, more surprise if you know what I mean.

 

I usually am touchy like most girls are, so that was something I was conscious of. Now I don't give a fudge I glomp whoever I want whenever I want, and I swing my hips when walking away from the guys I like Fufufu~

Life is better out in the open, but with insurance I have a nasty right hook >=)