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Small Victories

Discussion in 'Gender Identity and Expression' started by Kasey, Dec 11, 2014.

  1. Eveline

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    That's great news, I'm really happy for you! (*hug*)
     
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    It's the most amazing feeling. Especially because she had such a hard time with my gender identity recently. And I think when I move at the end of the month I just... Might.
     
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    It definitely is and it's great to hear. Sounds like she's taking things all in stride.

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    Going to Florida in a matter of hours. My mom's starting to get better about pronouns and my name so as long as she tries, I'm cool.

    Not looking forward to going through airport security though.
     
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    I cant say ive had many victories over the past few months. Actually, none, for I have been avoiding the problem. Ive been thinking "just don't think about it, maybe it will go away." for some time now. Where did that get me? Right fucking back to where I started. Back to "What am I?"

    BUT.

    These past few months have been the best of my life. Whether or not my gender identity crisis affected that, I don't know. I think it did more good than bad. I used to have to reject my feelings for any crush I might have because "we could never be together." That made me feel REALLY depressed. As soon as I threw the gender id out the window (for a while), I was able to actually explore my feelings instead of crush them. And, I think my mind did a little bit of an emotional reset, clearing out the old shit, for ss
    something new. Less biased. I think I'm somewhat gender fluid, but I don't know for sure yet. I'm still leaning towards female most of the time, though, so I'm not totally engulfed in utter chaos. Now that I think about it, this is a victory, a small victory, but a victory nonetheless.

    Thank you kasey. For everything. (Just felt line saying that)
    (This is the longest post ive ever written. I'm only slightly proud of myself.)
     
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    It's a struggle we all go through. We are here to support you on your journey too.
     
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    Also thanks for the shoutout lil sis.
     
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    I was out at a restaurant with my best friend's family (her brother + dad, who I am out to). My friend went to the bathroom, and I got a text from my dad and laughed, telling the table "Wow, my dad's Christmas shopping for my mom."

    The brother asked, "Oh? For what?"

    I said, "That's the thing. My mom says she doesn't want anything, which means she wants something."

    So the dad said, "Ah, that's just a thing a lot of women do. She's probably trying to drop hints. That's just some thing you'll have to learn to cope with in the future."

    I changed the subject, asking where my friend was, because she was taking a long time.

    The brother then jokingly said, "Yeah, that's another thing girls do. They take forever in the bathroom."

    We continued talking about other things, and it was awesome. I actually felt like I was being talked to and referred to as male. That's never happened to me before.
     
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    <3 Congrats!!!!!!! I've craved that my whole life! *well, the other way around* I'm so happy or you!!!
     
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    Thanks! I'm sure it's destined to happen to you eventually.
     
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    Im happy for you congrats :slight_smile:
     
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    Very Cool.:icon_bigg

    ---------- Post added 23rd Dec 2015 at 11:24 AM ----------

    i was at a pflag meeting last week and a friend who is also in my trans support group was there and constantly referred to me in the femine, it was very cool:slight_smile: i use he or she pronouns when im in a safe place and she just made me one of the girls even though i was presenting as pure guy on the outside.
     
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    Isn't it the bee's knees? Hahaha! It is a wonderful feeling <3
     
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    it really was,i was floating all the way home, and that's 100 kms.:slight_smile:
     
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    I'm not sure if she was referencing what happend or not, but back in August I told my mum I felt like a girl, nothing much happend after that but today we were watching a comedy tv show and the man was explaining to his mother that he was getting plastic surgery and the nother misunderstood him and thought he was getting a sex change. But when she told her friend she said, "no matter what happens Rory will always be my child" at that point my mum paused and said "that is true"
     
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    Last week at GSA, I introduced myself as Cody for the first time to 3 different people! And they asked my preferred pronouns! I'm definitely making progress. :grin:
     
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    excellent victory.:thumbsup:
     
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    Well I just straight up walked into my parents house and hugged them and said hi. As a woman.
     
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    How did THAT go? It sounds *excuse me, but,* BALLSY
     
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    You go girl!!!
    congrats on having a lot of guts!!
     
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    I just want to second this though! I'm proud of you!:icon_bigg:eusa_clap