Sitting with legs crossed does it make you look gay?

Well doing it surly makes me FEEL gay!
I try not to do it not only because not the most comfortable way to sit but also because I don't want ppl to suspect

 

I know alot of men who do that but I can't. I don't find it comfortable.

 

I've seen a lot of straight, older, married men who do it. And I do it because I find it comfortable. But it's just stereotyping really. As is a lot of things people do.

 

can someone please explain how you sit cross-legged in the "manly way" cus i sit how all the other girls do at school and it really hurts (iv got bony feet and muscly legs). i want to see if the other way is more comfortable.

 

Like this I think:

 

Exactly. I myself just started doing it sometimes, I find it both comfortable and elegant. You won't see a Head of State crossing their legs the "macho way" in an official picture. But then they are adults and public figures.

As a teenager I would never ever cross my leg in public out of fear of being seen as feminine. I think it also depends on the guy, if the guy himself is already feminine then he would look more feminine, if not most people won't find it that odd, I think.

 

I think it's mostly stereotypes. Anything effeminate about a guy is still seen as gay by a lot of people. I used to have a male teacher that sat like that, and all the guys in our class teased him about it.

 

Here's a dude comfortable with his legs crossed in his executive portrait:

http://photomirage.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/12/LarryJohnsonPortrait.jpg

Here's a dude making a concerted effort to look more macho, with legs apart or "macho" crossed, can't tell:

http://kingstreetstudios.com/wp-con...-Headshot-Pictures-©-King-Street-Studios1.jpg

I don't know if he succeeds or not, but he doesn't look bad at all.

 

Sitting with legs crossed does it make you look gay?/I]

NO! But, if two guys are sitting next to each other and one has his leg across the other guy's like that, you can bet they are both wearing trendy underwear.

 

hehe Oh you.

 

I wasn't aware gay men were the only ones allowed to sit with legs crossed. It's comfortable, but I usually only do it in private, since it's harder to relax around strangers than it is in the comfort of your own bedroom, and this goes for both the "feminine" and "masculine" styles.

 

No. It's considered much more masculine in European countries than not crossing them or crossing at the ankle.

If I see a guy sitting with crossed legs, I have a tendancy to think he is from out of country, or from more northern regions. Go to more southern states, and you won't find many males with legs crossed, except at their ankels. That is my observation, at least.

My son sits with his legs crossed, he is very lanky and I think that has something to do with it as well. However, he is in an all woman household so I wonder if that has also played a part.

 

If seated at a desk or a computer, is crossing legs in an x, though not specifically at the ankle, gay looking? This too?

 

I always sit with my legs crossed, it's one of the only stereotypes I have too.
Never got called out on it though.

 

I often sit like this, even in chairs. (I preffer my desk chairs to have no arms for this reason)

 

I used to until I stopped due to that very reason - people thinking I was guy. Obviously now I'm out, I can cross my legs to my hearts content, but I should have been able to anyway!

My dad crosses his legs, so I don't understand what the fuss is all about.

 

I always sit with my legs crossed all the time. My mother used to get on me about it because "that's something women do," but I told her to stop pushing her outdated societal gender norms on me, and she stopped. xD

 

If I'm sitting on a couch or something that encourages leaning back, I will cross my legs across the thigh. If I'm sitting in my office chair at work (which encourages a more upright posture) I will cross my legs 'ankle over knee'. Or I may just slump and cross ankle to ankle. Or sit upright with my feet planted flat and knees wide apart. Or...whatever else is comfortable in the moment.

Todd

 

As far as I'm aware, that is not the case at all in the Netherlands and I'd say we're pretty European.

 

That's odd. I never knew that.

I have friends that have lived in other countries and that is what they tell me. Mayhaps it's more where in the country like it is in the states? I wonder if it goes down to who actually settled the country. Like Spain , France, or England, etc.