Sexism

None of us were there to witness what went on. But based on the rest of your posts in this thread, I think it's possible that you may have had some intent, somewhere, that being kind to her after what happened might lead to you having a shot at a relationship with her. If so, my guess is that she somehow picked up on that intent. And if you *didn't* have that intent, even unconsciously, then you shouldn't be that upset that she doesn't want to speak with you. You did her a kindness, she appreciated it at the time, that's all that matters. Perhaps she's very bitter toward guys in general, perhaps you said or did something that implied an interest in a relationship. In any case, if you are genuinely doing something out of kindness, then it isn't reasonable to expect anything in return, otherwise you're not truly doing it out of kindness.

Second, on the point of preferring being raped to being accused of rape: I hope you never have to go through either, but having worked with a lot of people who have been raped, your statement belies a complete lack of understanding of the emotional and psychological damage of rape. Sure, false accusations can cause similar emotional and psychological damage, but to make a flippant statement like that is to completely devalue the hardships and difficulties (which can, for some people, last a lifetime) that come of being raped. It's hard to make a comparison, but most of what you described as the costs of false accusations don't last a lifetime, while the sense of violation and being "damaged goods" often does.

Finally, I think if you were able to go back and objectlvely read everything that everyone else has written in this thread, and everything you have written, with the mindset that perhaps the comments people are making might have a lot of truth to them, I think you'd make gigantic strides in understanding why you are having such difficulties in relationships. This isn't intended to be offensive, but you come off as boorish, entitled, and somewhat ignorant in your comments and views. Of course, no one wants to hear that, and I'm not saying it to offend you, but to honestly and objectively tell you what I'm reading from what you've written. And my guess is, if that's what's coming across in this thread, some of that, or at least the mindset behind it, is coming across when you interact with people. Even if you are trying to project a different persona, anyone with good people reading skills will see right through it.

So it might be sensible to really think about what people have said, about your own views, and how you are coming across, and then think about what steps you can take to genuinely work on yourself, your beliefs, and your interactions with others.