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Discussion in 'Chit Chat' started by dolphinsneu, Jul 21, 2013.

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  1. dolphinsneu

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    I didn't say anything. I just comforted her as best I could. She seemed to like it. She even asked me for a hug at the end. Yet she decided later she hated me
     
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    Are women really 51% of the planet? Considering how the one-child policy has resulted in a major imbalance of more men and less women in the most populous nation on earth, I think men have the numerical majority on earth.
     
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    So much respect unto you, honey. A+
     
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    How do you know that she hates you? You two hugged at the end and said goodbye and then after that at some point she called you up and said "I hate you"?
     
  5. dolphinsneu

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    Yes because being falsely accused

    1) costs you thousands of dollars
    2) can land you in prison
    3) can make it impossible for you to ever find a job again

    Being raped, while bad, does none of these things.

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    She decided she never wanted to see me again. Ever.

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    The other thing is, there are precautions you can take to avoid being raped. There's nothing a guy do to avoid a false charge. It's completely in the hands of the girl
     
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    ?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!

    I am literally astonished at how ignorant you are acting. You don't think it costs money to go to the hospital? To file lawsuits and go to court? To get months or years of therapy?

    You don't think it causes social trauma when people accuse you of being a whore, of deserving what traumatised you for life? You don't think rape history smears your reputation at all??? You don't think that having been physically and emotionally abused makes you scared of being alone, of being in a relationship, of having sex?
     
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    Are you serious? Yes, you're right it does not of the things you have listed. But it leaves other damages.

    1) emotionally scarred for life.
    2) everytime you have sex, you will think of that time.
    3) it takes away a thing that you can NEVER get back.
    4) You have bad reactions of the gender that raped you.
     
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    oh yeah and what fucking precautions???
     
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    With that view, really, please just date men. Non-feminist gay and bisexual men are extremely common (unfortunately for me and very fortunately for you). You can find plenty of guys who will let you bone them just for a Starbucks coffee.

    It's clear you're not here to learn anything, even though you asked to be enlightened. You have no interest in learning about what women go through. You're camping this thread and all the replies instead of doing any research.

    If you are going to keep dating women, I guess I would just say try to stop thinking of what you're doing like it's a financial transaction.

     
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    i'm calling troll now because this is too fucking stupid to be serious lol.
     
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    How do know she hates you and never wants to see you again? Did you talk to her at all since the ice cream?

    And while being falsely accused of rape is terrible (and those who do it should be ashamed of themselves), I don't think that is a reason to minimize the harmful effects of actually being raped. Being violated in such a way can be very damaging psychologically and impact the victim for life.
     
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    I will keep dating women, but I will continue to not pay until I know they actually want to be friends.

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    I AM NOT MIMIZING IT!!!!!! What don't you get about that?

    I asked to hang out a couple of times since then. She kept giving me that, Oh I'm busy bullshit until I realized she never wanted to see me. That's when I decided I would never pay for a girl on a date until I knew they weren't trying to steal my money
     
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    what the fuck are you talking about friends? who dates for friends?
    you mean until they decide to put out because you're soooo respectful?
     
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    not every girl is trying to STEAL your money. Your being a little arrogant now
     
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    Going in groups, avoiding deserted areas, etc.

    Whenever I have had to opportunity to have casual sex, I have had to decline because I know that this girl could easily turn around and say I raped her. That's horrible
     
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    you're absolutely minimising it

    and you're admitting to hounding her until she got fed up and ceased communication.
    that's not "for no reason"
     
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    Not every girl is going to say that. You better not be a troll. I swear.

    go on with this etc...please....I hope you dont believe girls who where certain clothing are setting themselves up too
     
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    Like MerBear says, girls aren't out for you because of your money. No girl is that shallow (at least not in my experience). I feel sorry for whatever dude gets caught up in that. And you don't think guys won't do the same thing?
     
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    Okay, so she's not interested in you. She is not under obligation to go on a second date with you because you bought her ice cream once. You can't force someone to date you.
     
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    Why should women have to do those things, while men can get away with not doing those things?
     
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