Hi all, somewhat new to the forum. First post here. I am thinking about coming out but had a question about sexuality. I am 39 and have known for a long time that I was attracted to men but for plenty of reasons it was simply repressed. I am coming to terms with all of this now. I have been seeing a counselor who has been very helpful in assisting me in working out my sexuality. She told me that some people have no idea they are bisexual or homosexual until their 30's or later (i.e. these people think they are exclusively heterosexual and the idea of homosexual behavior has never crossed their mind). Has anyone on here had similar experiences? Did it just take meeting the right person that changed your mind? Reading through different threads it subjectively seems like it may be more common in women than men but I have no evidence to support that. It just seems to me that sexuality is somewhat innate and deviations from the norm (exclusive heterosexual) would be apparent at an earlier age (as it was for me), but as I learn more about myself and others, I wonder if this is actually the case. Thanks to everybody in advance.