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Let's talk about virginity

Discussion in 'Chit Chat' started by AJ56, May 12, 2017.

  1. Austin

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    I'm never quite sure when I lost my virginity. What necessarily counts as losing it? When I was 15, with my then boyfriend, we tried to do anal but realized spit isn't great lube when you're new to it. So there wasn't much sex going on. I'd have to say the first time I really had full on sex was when I was 18.

    I don't regret it, no. I don't see virginity as some holy thing that needs to be preserved.

    I would date a virgin. I don't care really. I might prefer they have some sexual experience but eh.
     
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    I lost my virginity to my partner when I was 16. I was with them for six and a half years and we're still good friends, so no--I don't regret it. And yeah, I'd date a virgin; it makes no difference to me.
     
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    I'm still a virgin. I don't mean to be celibate for life, but I'm not waiting for someone special either. I just don't want my first time to be meaningless, so I'm holding off.
     
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    yeaah i'm 20 and still a virgin... and i feel horrible because i think that when that" time" comes i will have to say to my partner that i'm virgin and i think it's embarrasing for me... =(
     
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    Still a virgin, but I don't particularly care. I have a low libido and consider personality more important than attractiveness, and I haven't met anyone I would want to lose my virginity to yet. And because of how I'm attracted to people, I really don't want to just lose my virginity with someone just to lose it.
     
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    Are you a virgin?: yes
    Would you be ok with dating a virgin?: Absolutely.

    Honestly I don't regret not having sex even though I have had the opportunity to loose my virginity before. I do think however, that there is more pressure on guys to loose their virginity than what I have seen with girls in my area at least. Just remember that there is so much more to an individual than who is or isn't a virgin. My advice is to not stress out over it and wait until you find someone who you feel comfortable taking that step with.
     
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    I think thers nothing wrong with being a virgin. It means youre waiting for the right one. Im also scared of being judged but whatever!
     
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    Like you, I'm a 20 year old virgin. my first kiss was with a girl, immediately followed by 2 other girls that same night (should probably have been a dead giveaway I wasn't straight but actually pushed me deeper into denial) and then years later I had my first and only kiss with a guy. That's the only experience I have so...

    I've just been waiting for years for the right 'guy' to come along, not being honest it might be a girl I am looking for
     
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    Are you still a virgin? No. But also yes as I have not slept with a girl yet and thats where my interest is now

    If not, when did you lose it? Last year, with a guy I was dating

    Did you regret it later on? No, it couldn't have been a better situation. On my terms when I was ready. If I only date girls from now on I think I'll still be happy I've experienced it with a guy, even though the act itself wasn't great.

    Would you be ok with dating a virgin? Yes, 100%, as I have next to no experience I wouldn't care. Would much rather date a virgin than someone who had an intimidating about of experience.
     
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    I was the same way when I had my first crush on a guy in high school. I convinced myself that I just wanted to be "close friends" with him. I should have known better. I really liked him way more to be just friends.
     
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    Does oral count as sex? I still don't know my what my answer should be to the question of how many people I've had sex with.

    But I lost my virginity at the age of 19 (to a garbage human being) but no, definitely don't regret it. And I wouldn't have any concerns about dating a virgin.
     
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    To the people asking me this question, yes it does count. The way I see it, any form of sexual contact is considered a loss of virginity.
     
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    I lost my virginity there a few months ago (aged 17) , though I have had many sexual experiences before that with guys , none really with girls that I would count anyway.
    I suppose I don't regret it but it was quite sore and the first few times I have bled:eusa_doh:
    But to be honest I want to be with a girl.
     
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    Yes, I am still a virgin. Why? Perhaps because I am asexual, or at the very least demisexual, and have had overall very little interest in doing anything sexual with anyone. I've never felt the least bit of shame over it.
     
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    Honestly, take it from me - don't rush having sex. I did and I sorely regret it. I wasn't ready at all and it negatively impacted me in a pretty big way (I was 15 at the time).

    I would feel totally comfortable dating a virgin. If that garbage relationship taught me anything it's that sex isn't even really my thing!
     
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    total virgin here lol. no physical contact at all
     
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    Are you still a virgin? No

    If not, when did you lose it? At 16, to my boyfriend at the time

    Did you regret it later on? No, but I do wish it happened under difference circumstances

    Would you be ok with dating a virgin? I think I would be okay with it.

    I have not have a sexual encounter with a woman so I think I'd feel more comfortable in my inexperience if she was a virgin, or had limited experience too. Although there are benefits to being with someone who knows what they're doing.
     
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    Yeah I don't think I've ever been touched in a romantic way by anyone yet. I wouldn't mind dating someone virgin, that would be kind of cute actually.
     
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    I lost mine a few months ago. It was a random hookup but the guy was older and more experienced and didn't push me in any way. Obviously it wasn't great but it wasn't bad either.
     
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    Although slightly edited, this is pretty much my situation too.