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How would you describe your preferred role in bed?

Discussion in 'Chit Chat' started by Destin, Mar 19, 2018.

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What is your preferred role in bed?

  1. Top

    10 vote(s)
    15.2%
  2. Bottom

    15 vote(s)
    22.7%
  3. Versatile

    31 vote(s)
    47.0%
  4. Other (please explain)

    10 vote(s)
    15.2%
  1. 21zephyr

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    Well, since I’ve never had gay sex I can only speculate. Top or bottom is fine with me, but my main focus is to find someone who is caring. I spent a lifetime of shame from my childhood and being gay so I really just want to be with someone gentle. Kindness is the number one characteristic I will look for.

    Right now my favorite position seems to be on my back, sleeping since I don’t even know one gay man.

    Mbanema- I hear you, but I think you are probably selling yourself short. I feel the same way about myself- when someone gives me a compliment on my looks, I shrug it off because I don’t see myself that way. There is someone for all of us. When I look for someone, I would have to say looks are down the list for me. I want someone kind, loving and funny.
     
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    Usually big spoon or sadist

    Otherwise vers (for the same reasons OP shared) and my boyfriend is opposed to anal sex
     
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    I can guess what the “big spoon” is, but what is the “sadist” sexual position?
     
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    My preferred role is all by myself. Under the blankets. Asleep. I'm the only person who belongs in my bed. :wink:

    (Sorry, my asexual ass couldn't resist being the one oddball answer in here.)
     
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    I voted others. Because there is a possibility that people are neither top nor bottom. They are not into be neither of it. They just do bj or hj to each other in the bed. and they enjoy that way. hahaha all above is my guess and imagination. I am not sure if there are couples like that....
     
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    other - sleeping. :stuck_out_tongue_closed_eyes:

    in fact, I don't mind trying (almost) anything with this certain man, it's just that my sex drive is really low for an adult male.
     
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    Done both, prefer top. I’ve found that I like less work intensive sexual activities as well.
     
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    I'm a switch so I like the idea of doing different roles in bed. Top or bottom, dominant or submissive I wouldn't mind switching things up but I've never had sex so I can't really say which role I like more than the others. I don't want to be too serious about sex anyway.
     
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    I do not partake in penetrative anal sex but I guess I have mainly been a top when it comes to blowjobs etc.

    Im unsure if this is the role I prefer though as it may well depend on my sexual partner(s).
     
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    That sounds wonderful :laughing::slight_smile::thumbsup: :gay_pride_flag:
     
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    Voted bottom, it's what I prefer, but I'm versatile. I do find other effeminate men attractive, and if I met someone worth my time who was also willing to be versatile that would be great.
     
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    Dominant/Top usually, but can be a submissive bottom from time to time also. Somehow I prefer to be more dominant with men, and less with women. :wink:
     
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    Wrapped up in warm blankets, while reading a good book.

    I can only speculate about sex--never had it, and (call me pessimistic) think I probably never will...
     
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    Same here
     
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    I love both roles equally! I dont know, there is just something about pleasing and making sure my partners needs are met.
     
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    Total bottom, but I'll top a cute campy twink.
     
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    Was a bi top for 14+ years but not really satisfied with it and not into intimacy...was probably too scared I might enjoy it lol...5 years ago tried bottoming for the first time, absolutely loved it, now basically a total bottom and into relationships and intimacy, so I've become more gay and now bi-gay bottom orientation.
     
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    Variety is the spice of life, whatever tickles my or my partner's fancy at that particular moment.
     
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    Not many tops here apparently :stuck_out_tongue_closed_eyes:
     
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    Guess it depends on where you are. Down here, traditionally, being a bottom is frowned upon, while sometimes tops aren't even considered to be gay.

    Personally I'm a top. Not that I have any taboos about bottoming -- it's just that being penetrated is torture to me and always has been.