Gay Disowned & Rejected advice?

Luka, do you have a PayPal account? I echo Scanner, an indiegogo might be the way to go.

If you don't mind me asking, what have you been doing for food & shelter?

18 is a legal adult in Canada, and at 16 you can legally be disowned (it happened to a friend of mine, non lgbt though). There are services to help you out though. Go to any highschool or university that's near you and ask for a guidance councilor for highschool or crisis center at a university.

A church might be able to help you as well. After all, they don't pay taxes so I view that as their obligation to help you, no matter how opposed they may be.

 

I'm so sorry for you, man. Nobody should be disowned by their parents for ANY reason, but being LGBTQ+ especially. Wouldn't have expected something like this for 2015.
I will try to do ANYTHING within my power to help, although, as a 15 year old who lives in England, I doubt I can do much, however, if you need ANYTHING that you think I can help with, message me.
Hope things get better VERY soon.
I&W (*hug*)

 

Luka, I'm sorry to hear you are in such a shitty situation, but there are ways...

You should keep insisting on the Shelters. Tell them how it is : You are hungry, scared and have nobody. Also you are at risk. Tell them what happened, word by word. If they still refuse, then ask them where should you go, maybe they know other options.

I'd go back to my school as well and try to contact a teacher or counselor. Same thing : Tell them what happened and ask for help.

I'm with guitar about the church. Try them. I doubt they refuse to give you at least a meal and most likely a shower. You need to take care of yourself asap. After a meal and a shower you will see things under a different light.

You need to stop this. To live on the streets on the long run is going to leave its mark on you, and you don't want that. Besides you are doomed to get into (serious) troubles. You must look desperate, 'cause you must be desperate, and this will attract all sorts of weird characters.

Did you go to the social services today?

 

Hello Luka,

I'm so sorry your fears have come true. It's horrible to hear stories like this. But, you have to stay strong and keep positive no matter what.
Find whatever you can to bring something positive from your situation. Utilize whatever you can.
You CAN make it through this and come out on top. It might take longer then others but, you have to persevere.

Find somewhere to stay. Find a way to get stable. Then try to build up from there. Try to get school stuff done when you can. Plan ahead.

you can message me whenever.

 

(((ThisIsLuka))) Take care of yourself out there man.

Where are you sleeping? I think we've all wondered that. I think Michael is right, you need to get a home base pronto. I would take whatever help you can...if you can't pay it back then you can always thank them and pay it forward later when you're safe.

I would look ahead and knowing you're on day ten now and there could be a day twenty coming....I suggest you put your dignity aside for now but hold fast to your integrity. The blunt version of that i'm saying don't be too proud to beg but don't reach a desperate point out there where you compromise your morals and sell yourself for sex or turn to drugs for relief. I know this isn't exactly polite conversation but I'm trying to speak frankly to address your very real situation.

I read how sad you were that you've never yet had a boyfriend to love....but consider for a moment what a blessing that is. Its a blessing because you have all that ahead of you to discover and enjoy for the first time. Meeting someone, falling in love with them, spending time with them...its all ahead of you.

Yes you have quite a bit to look forward to in life. So don't lose heart for the short while you go through this. The part where "It gets better"...well you're at the perfect age where all that starts to happen. No longer will you have to try to live up to someone else's expectations of who they think you ought to be. You can just be yourself. You set your own goals and your own expectations and be what you want. And you never have to listen again when someone presumes, with all their vanity and pride, to tell you what God thinks of you...like they would know. If they looked into their own hearts and actually listened to Him, I doubt you'd be where you are now.

So anyways, dontbe too proud...get a Paypal account...a bank account...a Kickstarter account and start a Youtube vlog. If you're sleeping out in the park and its cold and scary...whip out your camera..show everyone just how dark and cold it is. You hear that? Sound likesome kind of animal...you're scared...play thatshit up and tug at those heartstrings....get people to donate. Its not about being one type of person or another, its about survival and getting yourself back into a safer more stable situation. Its about not letting yourself get to the point where you are so cold, lonely hungry and desperate that you'll do ANYTHING. Better to sacrifice your dignity and keep your integrity now than to lose it all later. Don't spend a minute longer out there than you have to. Staystrong. You'll make it. We'd all like to at least lend our emotional support and see you better off.

Good Luck
SCANNER

 

Hey Luka,

Everyone here is really concerned for you, it's good that you reached out.

Here is a place you may want to check out (although today, of all days, they are closed...)

Help for Winnipeg's Young Homeless - RaY Inc, Resource Assistance for Youth

Let us know how you are doing, and if you are feeling a little desperate, send me a PM and we can chat.

 

Not all churches and faith organizations are opposed. From Gay Winnipeg.ca:

Gay Winnipeg Churches - Religious Organization Links

Augustine United Church
Augustine is a community that welcomes and supports gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender, and two-spirited (GLBTT) people in all aspects of the life, work and worship of the church
http://augustineunitedchurch.org/

Affirm United
Affirm United is an organization of people of all sexual orientations and gender identities within The United Church of Canada. We work to provide the full inclusion of gay, lesbian, bisexual, and transgender people in the church and in society.
Affirm United/S'affirmer Ensemble | Affirm United/S

First Unitarian Universalist Church of Winnipeg
The website for the First Unitarian Universalist Church of Winnipeg, located on Wellington Crescent. UU congregations covenant to affirm and promote a number of principles, among which are: the inherent worth and dignity of every person; justice, equity and compassion in human relations; acceptance of one another and encouragement to spiritual growth in our congregations. Following these principles, UU churches have led the way in promoting acceptance of GLBT people, including providing Services of Union long before same-sex marriage became legal (and being part of the fight to legalize those marriages).
http://uuwinnipeg.mb.ca/welcoming.shtml

St. Matthew's Anglican Church - Proud Anglicans!
St Matthew's is a diverse inner-city faith community whose mission is to serve our neighbourhood and be a healing and transforming presence in our world.
St. Matthew's Anglican Church - Winnipeg

The Table
The Table is a space where you have room to explore what you believe. All are welcome; our demographic includes twenty-something students, new families and empty nesters. We’re trying to learn how to love God, to love one another, and to love the world God has made. We hope to provide a space to discover what that could look like for each individual. We meet above Independant Jewelers at 493 Notre Dame.
The Table

The Anglican or Unitarians in particular might be able to either get you into a shelter or find someplace else (halfway house, family, group home, etc.) that you could stay.


You might also check out these folks:


Rainbow Resource Centre
The RRC is the central community-service organization for Manitoba's gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgendered, and two-spirited communities.
Rainbow Resource Centre | Serving Manitoba's Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual, Transgender and Two Spirit Communities

From their Contact Us page:

Address: 170 Scott Street, Winnipeg, MB, R3L 0L3
Phone: 204-474-0212
Fax: 204-478-1160

Again, they may be able to get you into some place where you have food and a roof over your head.

On a related note, I know you said you struggle with 'taking', but you're in a situation right now where you need all the help you can get. Once you're back on your feet, you can 'repay' the help that people give you by helping them - maybe even volunteer or work for them in some fashion. Or eventually you can repay them by paying it forward and helping others who may find themselves in your situation.

Hope this helps, and take care,(*hug*)

Todd

 

You might want to try calling The Trevor Lifeline:
Our trained counselors are here to support you 24/7. If you are a young person in crisis, feeling suicidal, or in need of a safe and judgment-free place to talk, call the Trevor Lifeline now at:

866-488-7386

 

Luka, how have you been these past couple of days? Any luck with getting to talk to someone (perhaps social services)? Keep us informed. I was thinking of you and your story earlier at work. Stay strong. *hugs*

 

Luka, how are things going? Where you able to get help? Or are you still looking?

 

Hey buddy, do not give in! Get those thoughts out of your head and keep carrying on. I hope things went better today. Everything will get much better bro, trust me.