Fight or Flight? I just went ahead and told my best friend.

Firstly, thanks for the comment on my way of writing You are the first to do so!

Also, I have been thinking about this for a bit and I wonder if you are confusing the feelings that you have with homosexuality. For instance, do you want to sleep with him? If so, you can be certain it would be homosexual. If not, I think we can call it what you have been calling it for some time: a very close friendship.

I think two men can have a very close friendship that borders on what people would call homosexual. After all, friendships that are as close as yours, I do not doubt, require some element of love in order for it to survive. But this love could be nothing like what two gay men would feel for each other and I fear you might be confusing the feelings of brotherly love with the generic kind of love felt between couples.

I only say this because in light of what you have said I don't really get a sense of what I would feel would be the usual motions of a friendship that would develop into a full blown relationship. Your love is entirely innocent and dedicated only to the keeping of a friendship, nothing more. At least, that is what I think, I don't know if you would agree with me but I think highlighting the fact you are confusing something innocent with something sexual is important in letting you figure out the wider picture.

 

Fight or Flight, that is how I would describe the moment yesterday when my Mom asked "are you Gay" should I say yes or deny it, but as the saying goes Carpe Diem, I decided to seize the day & the moment & I said "Yes".

 

Dont sweat the small stuff.

I wish I had a friend like that, and your rationale.

Good luck, Keep calm and carry on

 

One quick comment, was he extremely hammered on the night you told him, if not, are there any signs that used to occur beforehand because not many "straight" males tear up if someone of the same gender says they (might) like them. Just curious as to if there were pre-revelation signs or not.