Does my friend think of me as more than a friend?

If he is not willing to do this, then you should not be willing to do this either. Those are my thoughts about the matter. =)

 

I didn't assume you were going to kiss him randomly. But I thought he said that he didn't think there was more. Personally, if I were in your situation, I would become flirty and play hard-to-get. But that's a matter of personal taste. :lol:

I know that feeling. =)

 

You've got at the point where there isn't a lot to say.

Be open with him, make a move, let him know you like him romantically and physically. Sleepover is a good chance, just make a move. Ask to sleep in the same bed and then get more physical.

Then you'll know, based on his reaction, if he can be with you at the time, or you will have to move on.

 

So I just read all 24 pages of this. Your relationship is definitely something. I'm almost envious haha.. I wish I had attention from my crush like you do. I was on the edge of my seat the whole time hoping I could see the outcome.

I noticed that he likes to tell you he loves you a lot, one thing I thought you could do to initiate a conversation but make him do the talking is to say "Do you..?" in a serious manner when he says "I love you". It might open up a conversation, or he might shake it off jokingly.

You seem like you know what you're able to handle yourself well enough but you have missed a lot of opportunities, and you have to remember people won't hang around/keep their feelings forever. It's better you do it soon.. Even if you just close your eyes and blurt it out to him.

I seriously wish you luck and I hope you do get together because your story is way too cute.

 

Be open in sense to be honest and openly say you like him in romantic way, not just as a friend, and that you would like to try something with him. If you go on sleepover, you will have a chance to make a move when you're alone: will that be a kiss, or something else it doesn't matter and depends on you, but it should send him clear and unambiguous message about how you feel about him.

 

If you wholeheartedly think you'll follow through on this, go for it. If the opportunity never arises to lean in for a kiss maybe just make eye contact, wait for there to be a silence for a few seconds and say "I want to kiss you". Just a suggestion. But good luck otherwise.

 

Hey. I don't know what else to add but I think you should get yourself out and into an LGBT froup or go dating guys who are out and willing to date you. Give yourself a real relationship rather than torturing yourself by trying to get the reaction you want out of your friend. If you do kiss him I hope you both get closer to sorting this situation out!

 

just read through the whole thread, i think theres definetly something there. hope all goes well for you. not sure id have warned him before a kiss, maybe a good hug face to face and just go in for it. considering what he had said in the past when you were really close face to face i dont think he would turn it down.

im certainly rooting for you and hope all goes well for you.

 

I am a little concerned about where this is going. Ask yourself now: when are you realistically going to act on this?

Maybe you should just send him a message or a handwritten letter, since whenever you intend to tell him in person there's always some kind of excuse or reason not to do it. The sooner it ends, the sooner you can relieve yourself from constantly wondering and reading into things.

 

Sek has the point.

However, if you're really not ready to act in order to resolve your situation, then all advices given by many users on the forum are in vane. :/

 

yea definetly dont do anything not in person, you may just have to snap and kiss him. im pretty sure he wont turn it down. with him still acting almost the same id say he isnt against it.

 

You could sleepover at his house or your house and tell him that you want to kiss him, but if he doesn't want to or doesn't like it then it's fine. He's unpredictable (in my opinion) and it'd be safer to bring up the kiss opposed to actually just going for it, but I don't really know what the difference would be, considering his "interesting" personality. Regardless, I still feel like you're wasting your time in college on someone who doesn't seem willing to open up to you in the way that you want him to. I don't know what he's so afraid of and what his deal is, but if this whole kiss scenario goes down (even if it's you just asking him if it'd be okay for you two to kiss) and he reacts negatively, you need to let go of the idea of you two being in a relationship, or at least start meeting and dating other guys. You can't expect to have a healthy college life and/or relationship--guy or girl--if you dwell on the unrealistic expectation for your friend to suddenly change his ways and become your boyfriend. Give it one more shot and try to find some closure in the situation, whatever that closure may be.

 

i agree, years ago when i hadnt told anyone at all about my curiousity i had a friend who "jokingly" (according to him) asked me to go out with him, i was so stunned as i had feelings about him that i didnt say anything, (i still feel terrible for not jumping on the chance) i talked to him the next day and said yes, he told me he was kidding but he respects my courage and choice. i was just about crushed, it didnt change our friendship at all fortunately. but between when he asked me and the next day when i said yes, if he had just leaned over and kissed me i would have loved it, although i would ahve said yes if he had asked to kiss me.

so either way i think if when you hug him its up to you, if you ask and he is ok with it he will say yes. asking certainly wouldnt hurt and i would think would be less of a risk than just going for it.