(Cliche) In love with friend

Just ask him out before someone else does. That tends to happen sometime, and you both seem to get on well. Just don't be toooooooooooooooo spooky about it or he'll think you're something out of the exorcist.

 

In a case like this I don't think letters are sensible enough. I think (this is totally my opinion, not a theory) it's better if your confession happens in real time, looking at his eyes, making it a special moment, you know. A letter merely can't raise the atmosphere for a lovely confession. It's always better to do such a thing in person, i guess coz when you are really there with him the flowing of emotions will be more open, right?

 

Set up a mental blockade, always works for me.

 

That will be fine as long as you make his bald man cry.

inb4Tyrion.

 

Same as above. And i love cliches :3

 

A simple 'I love you', would have probably sufficed.

 

To be honest, there are no stronger words than i love you, its the emotion that you possess when you say it that makes the difference. Thats why I still believe telling him in person would be the best decision you could make, whether he feels the same or not.

 

I'm not sure what's your best option here, whether to just say I love you (which might freak him out on the spot), to send him that big explanation, or whether to just say you've got feelings for him instead?

I've been in a similar situation with my best friend like 6-7 years ago when I told him I loved him. I messaged him on MSN and sent a big wall of text, sorta like that. I didn't get a reply for ages, and then suddenly I got 'I'm not gay.' Unfortunately it made things awkward for him for several days.
Flashback to last year where alot has happened, I started having feelings for him again and told him in person, simply saying that I had feeling for him and wondered what he thought as we're really close. He wasn't freaked out at all! We actually had a good conversation where he explained he's tried to have feelings for a guy in the past, but he doesn't think he can do it.

^ That was alot better way IMO for me personally, so unsure what's going to be the best way for you.

 

Hello, love the story and how intense your relation is.

I think that the letter would be too much. You don't have to convey all the bottled up emotions at first, that comes with a rejection or a relationship. Just tell him that you have feelings for him and don't overcomplicate things. It's not necessary. KISS, keep it simple, stupid. Since you are stupid when you are in love, it is the perfect principle to follow or at least remember. All he needs to know right now is the basics of your feelings, because that's what important right now, isn't it?

I hope it all goes well and good luck!

 

Overclouding tends to scare off potential suitors. You are madly in love with him. He almost certainly isn't to that extent but might be willing to explore options with you. You're putting quite a lot into what he views as a good friendship, and the last thing you would want is to have him think you are obsessed with him. It would work the way you want it if his feelings for you are the same as your feelings for him.

From your account he seems blissfully unaware that you are even interested in him. Receiving a lot of Shakespeare might alarm him sine you'd be revealing a lot of information that he likely never suspected and might not yet be ready to accept.

Either way it is your decision, but once that letter is sent there is no going back.

 

To me it also seems the letter is too much.

Yeah, it probably perfectly states what you feel. But that's a lot to take. As somebody advised me, being told even a simple "I love you" to anybody is usually very hard to swallow even if it's in a straight loving couple. Now imagine it's a guy, and on top of that, your best friend, who you are not sure how he's feeling. I'd personally try to do it less... umm I dunno, less romantic?

 

Still sounds better than this:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jCbtRWD12xo

 

I think people tend to think when you tell somebody your feelings it has to be genius. Its not about how you tell the person, its about telling them. If you truly love him, tell him just that. It isnt necessary to make a long speech and it doesnt matter if dropping "i love you" could be awkward or too much. What matters is that after you tell him, whether he feels the same or not, you'll have no regrets. You would have said what you felt, love. If you downsize with an i like you and he doesnt feel the same, you might as well told him you love him and if you overdo it & freak him out you'll regret not keeping it true and simple. "I love you." What more is there to say? Thats how you feel isnt it? Its hard, TRUST ME i know, but if you dont say it and you truly love him, than it'll be a mistake you'll hate yourself for. Just say it. If its true, tell him. I love you. period. Anything that comes after is up to him. I wish you luck.

 

Adding "I love you" to the end of your letter will complete it if you go that route. If that's more your style, and he knows that, then he would expect a letter from you, right? The expression of your feelings could start from "I love you," and go into more detail from there in conversation if things go well.

I'm glad you also have the drive to tell him how you feel. It kind of sounds like he was hinting around that he could be the one that you're flirting with. Overall, I would act quickly before someone else swoops him up, and also because you realized that you two cannot remain platonic friends forever.

And like others have said, I love your writing! It makes me want to read more :eusa_clap
I'm putting you in charge of writing my biography!

 

I'd probably go with the face to face route. But if you must write a letter, I think you should get rid of these:

• That last horrible, low self-esteem, paragraph. The whole thing, gone.

• "I don't deserve you" (Why not?)

• "You don't need to hear this. I don't need to tell you this." (Yes he does, and yes you do)


Good luck.