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Casual Dating... Yay or Nay?

Discussion in 'Chit Chat' started by myheartincheck, Feb 27, 2013.

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How do you feel about casual dating?

  1. It can be fun! I think others should try it! :)

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  2. Ehhh I don't care either way about it.

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  3. It's overrated!

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  4. Not sure... I haven't tried it/other

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  1. myheartincheck

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    So I was thinking... in a little over a month I'm turning 21. I've dated casually in high school with guys but now that I've dug a bit deeper with my attractions I've thought about dating casually again.

    I've never been in a truly meaningful relationship and I'm not looking for a commitment right now as I'm still getting over a girl. However I feel like I'm missing out on the dating scene because I want to try it out before I settle down. Today I was texting my friend about casual dating. The conversation went like this:

    Me: My dad asked why I haven't tried casual dating.
    Friend: Whoring around you mean!
    Me: There's nothing wrong with casual dating! My parents say I should try it. I think you're just jealous cuz you're married so you can't and I'm single so I can. :wink:
    Friend: Fine then! Straight to hell lol
    Me: What's wrong with casual dating!?!?!
    Friend: Just kidding. There's nothing wrong with it.

    My friend is a kidder, but it made me think... How do you guys feel about it? Would you try it? Have you tried it? I'm really just curious about it so any feedback is appreciated!
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    It's not really my thing, to be honest - I only did it in college, and only because it was expected - but I've been in love with the same person for seven years, so what do I know?
     
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    I don't see the point in casual dating, cause if i date a guy, i'm sure going to treat him right and devote myself to him, and i expect both of us to be giving 100 percent in the relationship.
     
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    I don't continue to date someone if I don't see it going anywhere.
     
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    As a matter of fact, I'm going on a casual date tomorrow with a guy named Shannon (Not sure on the spelling. I wasn't even aware you could have a guy named Shannon.)

    Slut-shaming is bad in my opinion. Just throwing that out there.
     
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    Oh! Good luck on your date. :slight_smile:
     
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    I think casual dating has a place. Some people can enjoy it. I can't even get a consistent "hello" from a guy, so I think i'd be ok with keeping it casual. At the same time, I know I like to connect with people. It's a toss up.
     
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    I've done it and can honestly say it's not for me.

    I'm a relationship kind of person. Seeing several people at once just isn't my thing.
     
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    l would. Ain't no wimmins here. But l'd love to.

    l didn't do it with boys because l didn't just "like" a boy. l could still like snuggling with a girl l wasn't crazy about xD
     
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    Sure, why not?
     
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    I don't see the point of casual dating. It's definitely not my style anyway. I'm a more of a relationship kind of guy.
     
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    I don't see the point. Seems like a complete waste of my time. I don't see the difference between that and having friends, minus other "benefits" you'd have from a casual date. Isn't worth it to me.
     
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    It's not my thing. I'd rather be in a long-term relationship with someone. I look at it like this - When you date someone, you kiss them. When you kiss them, you may find that you are attracted to them. As you begin to learn more and more about this person, you may realize that your feelings for them are growing. I would hate to put myself in a situation where I could have feelings for someone who still sees me as just someone to date.
    When I'm in a relationship with someone, they become a priority and a motivation in my life. I can't imagine being intimate with someone I'm not in a relationship with. I've done it before, and it made me feel horrible. :/

    But nothing is wrong with it as long as you feel comfortable! :grin:
     
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    I'd PREFER a commited relationship sure, but I'm not emotionally ready for it. I've never tried it, but I think I'm really just more interested in finding friends. I have no intentions to sleep with anyone on these dates I think it's just a companionship thing.
     
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    I have no desire to do it myself, but I don't care if other people want to. Do what makes you happy.
     
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    Oh, I see what you mean. You want to find friends that can relate to you better. And maybe go out on a simple date with them. I don't see anything wrong with that. Just be sure to let that person know your limitations. Where do you plan on meeting these people? o.o (If I may ask.)
     
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    I go to one gay club occassionally... and since I'll be 21 I can get into bars soon! I wonder if they have speed dating around here LoL

    Course it's really just a fleeting idea. I don't know if I'll follow through to try it but wanted to make a thread about it. :grin:
     
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    I had a feeling you'd say that. XD Just be careful in the bars. BECAUSE IF ANYONE HURTS MY WIFE. :angry:

    I've never tried speed dating. o.o That would make me so nervous! XD
     
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    I tried it but I feel like when I did that, I had a very hard time getting attached to any of the girls. Also, as bad as it sounds... sometimes I would forget who told me what. And then if one person gets feelings, then I would feel bad since I wouldn't be as attached. So I realized that's really not for me. I now know that I can only date one person at a time and if things don't work out, I find someone else. It makes things a lot easier and then I can give all my attention to that person. Also I don't feel comfortable being physical with multiple people. So yeah, it's not for me.
     
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    Haha You're sweet but I'm the big bad wolf. They gotta look out for ME. Don't you know a pretty face is more deadly than brute strength? :wink:

    Yeah I've got umpteen minutes to ask and tell xD