Almost 24 and never been kissed

It is better to wait to be kissed and have it be someone you really want to kiss. My first kiss was when I was 12 and it was a girl at school. It was gross and highly uncomfortable because I was just beginning to figure out at that point that maybe I didn't like girls and maybe I liked boys.

 

(*hug*)(&&&)(!):smilewave

 

I only been kissed by a guy, which doesn't matter because I want to be kissed by a woman. And yeah a lot of people will think it's weird cause everyone's having sex since they're like 14 nowadays. Screw people who think it's weird, you don't wanna be with someone who judges you based on how many people you've been with.

 

I haven't kissed anyone, either... And I'm 26...

 

Well I've kissed a few of the opposite sex, but that was before I accepted my sexuality. I've yet to kiss soothe man, though it would be totally sweet.

 

No kisses 'cept virtual ones with my former gf.

37.

I don't want to touch lips with anybody unless they mean something to me. Like, a LOT of something.

 

^This. I'm actually developing pedophobia because of this sort of attitude and negative comments I recieve when I'm trying to prove my point. They might experience a lot of physical contact, but they'll never experience true love and so, I can't help but feel sorry for them. Who knows, I might never experience it either, but at least I'll still have some self-respect.

 

....That's hot

 

Yes, I think it's odd and a turn-off. Sorry if you feel offended by that.

If I were you, I wouldn't tell my dates about this. Whatever your reasons and explanations may be - first thing that comes to people's minds is that you aren't desirable. If you have experience, it means somebody somewhere liked and wanted you, which is a good thing.

When you have just begun dating someone and people know very little about you, they will assume there is something wrong with you that has pushed others away if you admit never even being kissed. That is why they lose interest. I too would be cautious in their place. And of course all the lack of experience can be scary for people, not everyone wants to put up will all the troubles of first times etc.

 

nikidion's reply is very unhelpful and reflects more on her than on the OP.

LGBT people face unique challenges across the board and it is far from abnormal to have an experience deficit in you early twenties. I mean, where are these kisses supposed to happen exactly? In hostile schools where 99% of the teens are avowedly straight and the rest are huddled in denial or confusion? Not only must people come out, but they have to feel their way into being comfortable with queer relationships and same sex intimate touching. In my experience, gay people tend to be pretty understanding of this, even when they have had more prior romantic/sexual contact than their partners.

 

That's the attitude dear friend! If they're turned off for something about you there's no reason to stay with them, they're not for you. You already know from what many of us have posted before that you're not the only adult who haven't kissed, and that it would be very hot or sweet for many of us.

 

I would consider someone with a lot of experience as easy and not desirable at all.

 

My first kiss doesn't really count. It was when I was 8 and me and some others kids were acting out the film Zorro >.< My first real kiss after that in my teens wasn't anything special tbh. I wished I'd waited till my first real relationship in college.

 

You don't really need to say it. i don't think is something i would eve think about asking

My first kiss (with a guy) was nice but nothing special. in fact the best memory of a kiss that I have is probably the time I kissed a guy and he then told me that he had never been kissed before, it just felt special

Also different people likes different things o kisses so experience is not that important IMO.

 

Yeah, because that's the point of this discussion - OP asked us about our opinion, she didn't ask us to psychoanalyze her. Neither did she ask for help.

You haven't had any experience.
And I don't know what kind of ''understanding'' you expect - it's just a kiss. For majority of people (including majority of your potential dates in your age range) it is not a big deal. We don't kiss to perfect the skill and be forgiven by partners if we lack it, we do it because it's a nice thing to do if we like the person. Dating is not a job interview where you get hired for having skills and then need to perform and fulfill your duty. Same goes for sex, although it is a bigger deal of course.

I think you are doing yourself a disservice by being so upfront about having no experience. It's not even a matter of hiding and lying - in my dates we usually get to kissing and sex before discussing our exes and past relationships. I personally wouldn't care if my date had no kissing and sex experience, however, never having been in a relationship is a whole different thing. I know people who are over 20 and have always been single, and their reasons are depression, anxiety, awkwardness, shyness, not being a people's person and other things that I do not want in my life. That's all. Probably your dates too lose interest because they assume you have a bad character, not because you lack skill.

 

I am 20 and only had my first kiss a few months ago.

Most of the small amount of boys I have been dating have not minded and seemed to like the fact that I don't have too much baggage and I am nice and fresh.